Love Builds A Happy Home ❤️🏡

I love children.

I've always dreamed of having a big family with lots of kids around the house. I love their innocent minds and purest hearts. Their lovely smiles and funny giggle always warms my heart! 😍

Raising a kid here in Singapore is pretty expensive, so two is just perfect for me and I'm very thankful to be blessed with 2 beautiful kids in my life. I admit I'm not the most patient mum in the world, but I'll always protect them, love them with all my heart and provide them the best I could. That is my promise, my responsibility to my children and I'll never break that promise!

Some days, my kids made me really upset and drive me nuts, but as a mother, you'll always see the beauty in them and forgive them anyway. No mothers I know would ever hold grudges against their own children.


Hence, parenting is a challenging journey. Personally, I feel that every child is unique in their own ways so I wouldn't want to compare them with anyone and I don't follow a fixed formula in parenting because a lot of answers are never found in books. To me, it's all about trial & error and being flexible for your child's needs, but that's just my opinion.

I'm sharing some thoughts on family life and parenting today because I feel strongly for my close friends (mothers too) who shared with me how tired and frustrated they are, to manage everything alone when their husband is at work or out of town for months. I could relate to how they feel because my hubby works long hours too, sometimes, I feel so exhausted doing the endless house chores and mothering the kids at the same time. 


There are days when I am so busy with the kids and my online biz that I hardly have much time to blog. Most days, I only get a few hours of sleep. (But that's fine, I don't sleep a lot anyway.lol)


It gets worse when you are unwell and didn't have time to rest when you don't have any source of help near you.. No nanny, helper, in-laws, grandparents or someone you trust to help you out... Can you imagine how crazy and stressful it is, with zero help?... Homemakers are not made of steel, we need rest too, like everyone else!


All I could do was give my friends hugs for comfort and support. Lend them my ears to listen, whenever they want to vent their frustrations and unhappiness. 


Besides the struggle...Do you realize that Mothers are always the ones who get judged and blamed? It is no wonder they are so stressed out and emotionally drained when they get judged almost everything...ALL THE TIME!


Say for example, when the kids misbehaved, show bad manners and attitude or get into some troubles, everyone starts pointing fingers at the mothers but rarely at fathers. Hmmm, but isn't parenting suppose to be a teamwork?... Well, I don't think it's right to blame only the Mums for bad parenting. Ah yes! I know Dads are the sole breadwinners, they work very hard every day to provide for the family, but a Daddy's role is equally important in parenting.


Actually, I have seen some good Daddies around lately. I think the new-age Dads are very cool! I must say I'm really impressed by how dedicated and devoted some fathers are. 

I once heard a Daddy singing "Baby Shark" to his toddler on a long bus ride, even when he sang out of tune, lol..I still think that was really sweet! Men are often viewed as a muscular and manly figure, so when a Dad sings a kid song or nursery rhymes to his child in public...Wow! You got my attention, Mister! Thumbs up, Daddy! 👍 


I feel that in order to build a happy family, both Mummies and Daddies have to be involved in parenting because they are the ones who shape the kid's personalities and the person they grow up to be.

My point is, parenting is a team effort! It is never only the Mummy's or Daddy's duty to do certain roles, it's all about supporting each other and teaching the children the right things as parents. 


Keep in mind that your spouse is your life partner, not a slave or a machine, it's not humanly possible for anyone to take all the roles in parenting alone. Do not take anyone or anything for granted. Your partner needs support, your attention, understanding and appreciation too. 

The children are your labor of love..Therefore, both Mummy and Daddy play the most important roles in the parenting journey. Kids learn from their parents, always! When you show love, respect and kindness to others. Chances are, your kids are more likely to follow the same way you did and become loving adults in the years to come.


Parenting is never easy because we all have emotions and bad days too, that is why you need support from your partner when you feel emotional or need some time-out! In my opinion, there is no perfect parenting nor a perfect family, only responsible parents who work hand in hand together. 

A warm and happy family isn't built overnight, it takes years, a lot of patience and hard work from both parents...But together, you can build a happy family so long as you work as a team... and happy home, raise happy kids! 👦👧

Let me know what's your thoughts on Parenting / Parenthood? 

Happy Parenting, Mummies & Daddies! 😘 

Blogger Mommywarrior77

Have You Been Naughty Or Nice? 😈😇

As the bus drove by along Orchard Road...I glanced through the window looking at the busy streets filled with happy shoppers, beautiful lightings and fancy decorations...Yay! It's Christmas!!! My favorite time of the year...🎄🎅❤️

Every December, I would make my New Year resolutions and do a quick recap on the whole year events.

How have 2018 been 
for you? Have you been Naughty or Nice? Lol.😀

Honestly, I would say I've been a bit of both but mostly nice.😁 If you know me well enough, you know I'm always friendly, nice and warm to people who are genuine, kind and helpful. However, if anyone try to hurt or mess with my kids and family, I can be quite nasty that they can never imagine! So DON'T mess with the Mama Bear..Afterall, it's a maternal instinct for any mother to protect her children..Other than that, I'm as cool as a cucumber. LOL!

2018 has been another busy and eventful year for me..Mostly involving with my kids events, random contests, school life, some oversea trips, lots of fun parties/celebrations and gatherings with good friends. 

I'm very proud of my son who achieved an Integrity Award from his school. He scored 95% for moral education as well.(Welldone, baby!) The form teachers feedback about his good conducts and school grades. My daughter will be starting Pre-school in Jan 2019. She is super excited about school life, she carries her new school bag everyday, walking around the house, packing the crayons and color pencils into her bag.😁

My online business is doing pretty well this year and I'm grateful for the 100% positive feedback from my regular and new customers. Thank you all so much for the support. I've won some prizes from random lucky draws and costume contests earlier, very thankful to Lady Luck for being so kind and generous to me in the recent months! 😍🙏

I also made a couple of new friends and interesting people early this year that inspired me on the perspective of life.👍


As I recalled some unhappy past events, I realized that family is STILL the Most important thing in the world.. No amount of money can ever buy family love, loyalty and unity.

Indeed..What is happiness when you are rich with no family and true friends around you? No thanks! I wouldn't want to be rich but lonely! My family will always be my top priority. Nothing can replace them! I will always love and protect my family. Period!

I've also learned to keep a distance from the black sheeps and the troublemakers who caused some dramas earlier! It is so true that life is more peaceful when you stay away from negativeness and toxic people. I see a huge difference since...

Christmas is a season of giving, hope, joy and a wonderful time to spend with your family and love ones. I'm glad I've done my new year resolution and still have a little spare time to write a short blog today and do a shout-out here to all my readers, to wrap up 2018.


I hope 2019 bring more joy, laughters and blessings to everyone! Always treasure your family! Family bonding is very important if you want a happy home. Make time for them, organize family outings, have movie nights or do some sports together. Your work and money can wait! 😉

True happiness and wealth in life are things that money can't buy. You are truly rich and blessed when you have a family who stick together and always stand by you through good times and bad times. Keep in mind that a family who sticks together, stays together! 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 💗

On this peaceful evening, I would like to wish everyone a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! May the holiday season fill your home with joy, your heart with love and your life with laughter. Have a fun celebration! Don't be in Santa's naughty list, folks! Lol! Do good and be kind always! 😘

For Love & Peace! ♥️✌️


Blogger Mommywarrior77

The Pride Of Motherhood 👩💓

Motherhood.

If you're a Mum, you know the struggle is REAL and the journey of Motherhood isn't always a smooth-sailing ride... I overheard a conversation the other day and I'll share my personal thoughts on Motherhood.

I am sure we have seen and heard many debates on Working Mums (WM) vs Stay-At-Home Mums (SAHM) and the battle never seems to end...

Personally.. I think such debates are pointless and quite silly because at the end of the day, we did it for our kids and the family so what's the purpose of proving which group gets more credits, we aren't earning for brownies or rewards points, are we? lol 😁


In my opinion.. I feel that as mothers, we should help and support one another instead of attacking, shaming and judging. If you are a working mum, it's cool to bring the bacon home, if you are a stay at home mum, that's wonderful to witness every precious milestone of your child each day.

My point is...Respect the roles of both group of Mothers. I have many friends who are working mums and I love them like sisters and as a stay/work at home mum myself, we face many challenges too and not every SAHM live a Tai-Tai (aka rich lady) lifestyle...and yes! I do understand the work stress for working mums as well..My friends complained to me all the time about their work projects,  long hours, frequent meetings and the nasty office politics they deal with everyday but stay at home mums have tons of endless housework and they hardly have any me-time for themselves, they don't get paid for doing everything, they got ZERO welfare, they have to deal with the cruel criticism and unfair judgement from the public as well. 

Indeed..Motherhood is a tough journey for both working mums and stay at home mums but it should NEVER be a competition or humiliation. I really think all mothers (SAHMs and WMs) deserve Equal credits, respect and recognitions in the society.

Just to share...years ago, a single lady in her 40s once asked me..."M, what do you do at home all day? Wow! honestly, I felt really pissed at that moment and I think that was kinda' rude.. I wonder why did she even asked when she already knew what SAHM does! But yes..we don't go to work like the office lady and getting a paycheck every monthly but we are not sitting all day, munching chips and catching Korean dramas.Lol! We are equally busy taking care of the kids everyday, making sure that they are well & fed and running the daily errands. 

It's really sad that people are so shallow and judgmental these days. No offense and pardon me but I wonder how does she feel when someone asked why isn't she married at her age. Ahh.. there you see! Sensitive and tactless questions like this are totally uncalled for and it only tigger tensions and unhappiness so it's best to zip up especially when people can't relate to the situations. 

Well..It's always easy to judge and make senseless remarks on others when they can't relate what Motherhood is all about and a mother's role in the family.. Say for example, if someone who can't cook or doesn't clean up the house, how can they truly understand and relate to the exhaustion from fixing meals for the family and doing the housework everyday?..What about pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding? Hey, not even a dad can relate that..just saying, Lol! So it really does take a mother to understand a mother! Period.

I hate to judge without knowing the truth, but that's me! Besides, it's really none of anyone's business whatever the decisions the mothers made for the family. Every household has different needs and demands. There is no standard formula in motherhood so why is there a need to compare who is better?

Here's a cool video that every mothers / parents should watch. Perhaps many have seen it before and I think it's one of the best motherhood advertisement that I have seen so far that speak a thousand words with a positive punch!👍

Motherhood is messy, crazy, tiring, stressful, exciting, rewarding and this list go on.. The last thing any mother need is someone making hurtful remarks to belittle and attack them. 

The next time you ask such questions..think about how others feel and how YOU feel when someone ask you a sensitive question back, if words that may sound hurtful and unkind..Don't do it! because those words that are spoken can never be erased! It's never cool to go around insulting and mocking mothers or anyone so it's wise to think before you speak. Learn to speak with respect, kindness and intelligence, that way you'll make a friend instead of an enemy.

I have the highest respect for many strong mothers that I've met, both working mums and stay at home mums. At the end of the day, we all play the SAME role of a mother. Please do not feel worthless just because you don't bring money home for the family and don't feel guilty for working during the weekends. You Are Still A Good Mum, Remember that!😎  

Whatever the choice is..be proud of your role as a mother. Keep in mind that we do NOT have to live in the opinions of others. While the battle will still continue I'm sure, but allow me to speak with the pride of a mother. Thank you.😘

*Remark : This blog is specially dedicated to all the amazing mothers / Mommy Warriors for their hard work and sacrifices for the family. Love you Mums! 💕

Blogger Mommywarrior77

Special Announcement & Updates 📣

Hey guys! I have been super busy lately but I thought I should update my loyal readers here in case anyone misses me...LOL! Wonder where have I been lately...? Slaying bullies & villains?😝 Naah..I'll save those actions for later perhaps...Hehe!😙

Well..I'm still very active on social network daily, especially Instagram. Recently, my blog was shared actively on social media and I have been invited for paid Ad-hoc assignments to write reviews for some products, services and Parenting advice...So now you know why I haven't blog for awhile here because I have been doing alot of writing privately...😉

Last month, I hosted an AMA discussion on Amafeed.com It's a great experience and I really enjoy interacting with the audiences. Wow! Some of the questions are pretty interesting and I am happy to share my thoughts there and via emails on the related topics of my AMA/blog niche.

Meanwhile.. you can check out my AMA link here 👉 mommywarrior77 is on AMAfeed.com  to understand more about me and perhaps you could benefit from the advise and thoughts that I shared on my AMA.Who knows! 😊

I may be hosting another AMA discussion, hopefully soon when I'm done with all my assignments and some private stuff but don't worry..Blogging Is My Passion so I will still continue to Blog and put my emotions and thoughts into words...I have also drafted out some tasteful topics/contents that I think my readers may be interested, so do stick around! 😁

Anyway, if you can't remember my URL or blog address, links, etc... just go to Google Search and type, "mommywarrior77" You'll find me on the top main feeds and all my recent posts on my social media accounts.

Ah yes... last but not least, I would also like to take this opportunity to thank the ladies (BN Admin) who messaged me earlier on FB and introduced AMA. 

I'm very grateful and feel honored that my AMA/blog was featured on their Facebook & Instagram. I truly appreciate the boost of awareness and I like to thank all the readers and my followers who spent time reading my blogs and the comments on my AMA.😘

Go on! #Ask Me Anything, lol..Please feel free to write to me if you have any questions related the my blog topics / niches. I am pleased to share my knowledge and personal advise to anyone. Till then..Stay connected! Be Kind & Be Nice...Peace!😎✌️


Blogger Mommywarrior77

Be A Buddy, NOT A Bully! 💪

Bullies...

I often wonder..why do people bully? was it for fun? trying to be cool? or simply just being a jerk! 😠

Anyway, I'm sure many of you have at least encountered a bully at some point in life or know someone who was bullied.. Unfortunately, bullies are everywhere..In schools, office, on the road, internet, public places and even in families sadly...


I recently witnessed a bully case in school that triggered me to blog this topic. Indeed, bullying is a huge social problem globally and it is a major concern for any parents.


Just a brief flashback...I was a bullied teen during high school. Being chubby and nerdy, the bullies in my class would picked on me all the time... Playing pranks on me, making fun of me with nasty name-callings. Whatever!..School wasn't a fun place for me, I hated school! I dragged myself to school everyday, I was an average grade student with good conduct but deep inside...I was counting down to graduation day. I'm so thankful that I survived those nightmares when I'm finally done with school, I was 'freed' at last and I could breathe freely again...

Now I am a mother of 2 young kids..I wouldn't want my kids to suffer the horrible experiences I had in school..No one deserve to be bullied! I wished someone taught me some self-defense so I could protect myself when the bullies attacked me. So...I encourage my son to learn Taekwondo, he is almost 7yo and has earned a Green belt.👍😊

Sometimes, I regretted being too timid because I was so afraid to challenge the bullies to defend myself and report them. I would just tolerate but feel miserable inside. I felt weak and so little about myself. That is one tough lesson I've learned in life, so Never put up with any bullying, seek help early and talk to someone about your problems. You don't have to suffer this alone in silence.


Do remember.. Silence isn't always golden. When you need to step up, speak up and defend yourself..Do It! Be brave enough to tell the bullies to Stop and Back off! Hiding your fear, your sadness and crying won't ever solve any problem! In fact, that would feed the bullies' ego and encouraged them to continue the bullying. When I read news about children / teenagers who committed suicide, it breaks my heart when young lives are lost in the result of prolonged abuses & bullying.😟


When I started working and learning about life as I grow..I became tougher, smarter, and I am grateful for my mentors who guided me along the way. I learn how to protect myself during danger, crisis and tacky situations, etc.. Through many life experiences and setbacks over the years, from zero to hero.. I am a stronger and wiser person today! A lady with confidence, strength and positive vibes.😊 Today, I am NO longer the nerd I was back in school. I remember no one ever noticed me during school days, I was invisible! Hmmm.. But now, I got attention from the public, strangers and I made heads turned..Hahaa! Many of my classmates couldn't recognise me when we met during our school gathering recently...There you go! The story of "The Ugly Duckling" does exist in real life and I am one good living example.😘


Here's a cool song by one of my favorite Singer, G.E.M. Love this song so much and the MV too..I can relate to the song and it's perfect for my blog! Check it out.. It's pretty awesome! Enjoy.. 😍😎

                                              
             Click here ➡️Song lyrics in English #SayNoToBullying


Studies have shown that bullies are loners, insecure, self-centered and attention seekers who are unhappy about life and themselves..Many came from violence, broken families and grew up from bad childhoods.


Whatever the reasons may be.. Any form of bullying is still Wrong! It Is Never Cool To Bully! I've always tell my children..it is ok to be angry at times, but it is NOT ok to bully or hurt someone! There is no sensible or justified reasons to bully anyone! Young or old. Period!


As parents, it is our duty and responsibility to educate our children proper manners, moral values, self-discipline and respect. We should be role models and practise good examples for the kids to learn from. No parents would ever want to see their kids get hurt or being bullied anywhere, so we must teach our children some basic self-defense so they learn to protect themselves when there is danger because anyone could be a target for the bullies!

A physical scar may faded over time but an emotional scar will never be healed completely. Thus, it is hard to fix something that is badly damaged.

Prevention is always better than cure!

Let's remind ourselves and teach our children to practice kindness, compassion and treat everyone with respect always. Share and Pass it on... #SayNoToBullying

Blogger Mommywarrior77

The Cyber Generation 🌎

Last week, I attended an interesting workshop on Cyber Wellness and met Mr Jim Lim, the speaker for the workshop. Personally, I think it is one of the best workshop that I have attended in the recent years. 

Jim is a friendly, humorous and intellectual speaker and his workshop is helpful, informative and engaging. I promise you won't doze off in his 4hrs+ workshop. I now have a better idea to guide my children as they grow into their teens and adulthood in years to come. 

We are in the Cyber Generation and Internet is part of our life..Hence, the trend, the temptations and the contents from the net influenced the mind and the overall well-being of the child when they are exposed to the Internet everyday. It is important for parents to be involved and bond with our children to help them understand about Internet safety and their curiosity as they grow.

I am amazed and inspired by his speech in this workshop. Jim who is also an experienced social worker have met many people / families from different walks of life, he shared many real life stories and his perspectives on Parenting.

We all know that Parenting is not an easy journey because there is No fixed or right formula. There will be tears, heartaches, anxiety but alot of joy along the way and from time to time, we need to experience many trial-and-error to understand what works the best for our children because every child is different and unique in their own ways.

As a parent myself and a mother of two, I am a protective and a strict Mom. However, unlike the majority, I am not one who focus too much on academic and good grades, because I believe life isn't only about having good grades. 

As much as I want my children to have a bright future and be successful in life but I wouldn't want my children to be top scholars but failed in morality, humanity and social skills/EQ. I want my kids to experience their life journey and to overcome the different challenges ahead and if they fall, I want them to learn to get back on their feet and keep moving forward but a stronger and wiser person each time they fall.

With all due respect, I strongly agree that good and proper education is very important for our generation and the human race. Knowledge Is Power! Without a strong educational foundation and support, there wouldn't be doctors, scientists and lawyers today!

Well..I'm not a big fan of books but if I will spent 12 bucks to get this book and to blog about it, it's definitely a great book that I would recommend to my friends and other parents, especially those who have an open and flexible mentality on Parenting.

The world is a crazy and hazard place, with shocking news everyday. Power, Violence, Fame, Fear, Greed, Lust and the list go on..Though we can't stop all the negativeness around the world but we can educate and guide our younger generation into the right path to shape our world a better place.🌎

Life is an exciting journey and Parenting is our responsibility! Teach our young the right and humane way of life, to build a better future for mankind.

For love, compassion and peace!❤

Blogger Mommywarrior77

Stay-At-Home Moms, I Salute You! 💖

People often asked, "Babe, why did you gave up your career to be a Stay-At-Home-Mom?", "Don't you feel bored staying at home all day?"

I smiled and replied politely..."Not really, I have a lifetime to work, but my kids are only young once, I want to be there to witness all their milestones, to spend quality time together and giving them a beautiful childhood..."

Hmmm..why would I be bored? I keep myself busy every day and I love bonding with my 2 sweethearts. I can't wait to teach them how to play the guitar/drums, bake the cookies, play basketball together, go camping and I look forward to more activities as they grow...

Since the day they were born, it is my duty and responsibility as their Mother to take care of them, no excuse! Frankly, 24 hours isn't enough for me, the house chores never seem to end...Every time I cleaned up the room, it's messy again the next hour...Wow! I don't even have time to enjoy a decent meal or take a nice long bath...Indeed, though my kids made me very busy, exhausted and 'crazy' some days, but they also brought a lot of joy and sunshine into my life.

While I do agree that money is very important but my children/family always comes first! To me..FAMILY is the most important thing in the world!

Over the years, I have seen many unhappy rich people and happy average people who appreciate every little thing in life even though they don't enjoy all the luxuries like the rich. The latter seems happier.

In my opinion, if you have a happy family/home. You ARE Rich! because no amount of money in the world can ever buy a happy family nor a beautiful childhood etc..We should always learn to be thankful and count our blessings.

As a wife and a mother, my priorities are my children/family, NOT my career at this point. Moreover, I never really miss working life, I'm glad I don't have to rush to catch the train and dealing with office politics now. I'm pretty happy and contented to be a Stay/Work-At-Home Mom and a Lifestyle Mommy Blogger too.😘

Unfortunately, the society is negative and judgmental on SAHMs but it doesn't really matter! We don't need to follow the majority and we don't have to listen to those stereotyped remarks anyways. Every family is different.

I understand that words can be very hurtful sometimes, people are very mean and often mock at these poor mothers, I can totally relate to that, being a S/WAHM myself.

But think again..if there is no SAHM to take this role, be prepared to spend more money on daycare/childcare services and be mindful that these centres don't operate 24/7.

It's really sad that the hard work people see, is based on the wages that you bring home every month. Hence, the unconditional love and time that we (SAHMs) have given to the family were forgotten and taken for granted, yet again...

Nonetheless, I'm still thankful that I have a choice and I choose to be a SAHM, I'm proud of my role and decision. No regrets at all.

My children will never remember all the cool toys when they are older but they will always remember their sweet memories of their childhood with their mother always by their side to love, nurture, guide and protect them.

With all due respect, I truly feel that SAHMs deserve more appreciations, supports and encouragements from the society for all the sacrifices they made for the kids/family...Afterall, not everyone can accept this role and be a happy SAHM altogether. It is truly not easy to be a SAHM, only those who are one would understand the struggles and challenges we deal each day. 

I am writing this to thank my dear mother for all the love and support she has given me since the day I was born and also a shout-out to all the amazing SAHMs out there (*including myself) who have done so much but too little recognition.

I truly feel your delicate love and exhaustion, Mommies! Please remind yourself that you are doing a wonderful job. Let's keep up the good work, Supermoms! From the bottom of my heart, I Salute You! 😎👍

Blogger Mommywarrior77