Dating Advice : The DOs and DON'Ts ⚠️

So, I hung out with my good friends the other day and we were chatting about our best/worst dates...and I thought maybe I should blog on this topic today! 😊

Well, I'm not a dating expert here, but I'm not new to dating so I'll share my personal experience, some advice and tips with the readers. 

If you are searching for Mr/Ms Right, but hasn't had much progress so far and wonder what went wrong, here are some dating advise/tips for reference. 

We all know that First Impression is very important, so it is necessary to know the DOs & DON'Ts and some safety tips on the first date.

        

1) Be Punctual

I know unforeseen events are unavoidable and if you are late, do make a call to explain and apologize sincerely. I don't like being late and nobody enjoys waiting. I'm always slightly earlier or on time. People who are punctual always give me the best impression because it tells me how well they manage the time and how much they value the date/appointment. 

2) Dress Appropriately

You don't have to dress like a Superstar or wear a tuxedo on your first date but basic grooming is still necessary. Wear something smart, neat and comfortable that fit the occasion. Remember, it is a date, NOT an interview! But avoid wearing singlets, sweatpants, shorts and slippers unless you are meeting at the beach, bbq, etc... 

3) Maintain Gentle Eye Contact and Smile 

The eyes are the window to the soul and I believe eyes don't lie! I know some people are very shy and they avoid looking into the eyes, but if your eyes are wandering elsewhere during a conversation, your date may feel that you are bored and uninterested. However, if you keep staring into the eyes, that could make some people feel uneasy too. So just be natural, smile and look at the face when they speak. 

4) Put Down The Phone

Mobile phones are so important in our daily life and I know most people are attached to their phones, all the time!...checking their social media, emails, texting and playing online games etc..but if you are constantly checking and tapping your phone every few mins, then you are not giving full attention to your date and that is not going to leave any good impression for sure! 

5) Relax and Take It Easy

Some people get really nervous on a first date. They start to tense up, fidget and become clumsy at times. I once went on a dinner date...The poor guy was so nervous that he knocked over the glass a few times and had to rush to the washroom to clean up. Omg, it was hilarious! So just chill and breathe... 

6) Keep The Conversation Fun and Interesting

There may be awkward moments of silence when you can't think of any interesting topics to break the ice and to keep the conversation going. I would suggest talking about hobbies, music, movies and interests for a start and take it from there... Don't be the only one talking, ask questions and let the conversation flow.

Jokes are fine but keep it mild on the first date! Nobody wants to date someone who acts like a clown. Laughing and cracking jokes throughout the dinner aren't very cool! Avoid dirty jokes / dark humor on a first date because it may be inappropriate and offensive for some people, so do be more sensitive.

7) NEVER Talk About Your Ex!!! (A Big No-No!)

Indeed! You probably heard this a thousand times! Talking about your ex on your first date is never encouraged! That is one of the Biggest deal breaker! I do think most people are aware but sometimes.. words, places, songs may trigger past memories and they start talking about their ex unintentionally, without realizing a huge mistake they made! 

Be careful not to get too emotional on your first date. No one likes to hear sad, break up stories so it's time to let go and move on...Let history be history! especially when you are dating someone new. 

If a guy start talking about his ex-girlfriends on our first date. He probably will never hear from me again! lolz! I do understand everyone has a past but if someone keeps talking about their past relationships then they are probably not ready to start a new relationship, in my opinion.

8) Be Polite

Maybe the person isn't what you are looking for or maybe there isn't any chemistry...but you can still be friends! There is no need to get upset or feel depressed."There are plenty of fish in the sea!" It's no big deal if the date didn't work out.

9) Don't Move Too Fast

Ok dudes! I know she is cute, sweet and attractive but don't get too physical/intimate on the first date! Take it slow and watch the body language. If your date is not ready, don't keep pushing and trying so hard, because that will only push her away in the end! Surely you don't want to scare her, so be respectful and a real gentleman! 😎

10) Arrange The Next Date 

If the date went well and you would like to meet up again... Be spontaneous and make the first move! Don't wait too long to ask her out again. You can plan a movie date, an outing, picnic, sports, etc..

11) Meet At Public Places 

NEVER meet in secluded places, hotel rooms or an apartment. Always let a trusted friend know you are meeting someone on a date, so they have some information and know your whereabouts.

12) Stay Away From Alcohol

It doesn't matter how well you hold the liquor. Alcohol can cause serious danger! (If you get drunk) I'm sure you have heard scary stories and nasty news of victims on their first date. Unfortunately, scammers and con-artists are everywhere! Always stay alert and trust your gut. If you don't feel right, leave immediately! 

If you must use the washroom..Never drink the same glass when you are back! (just to be safe!) It is OK not to finish everything, you can always ask for a new glass if you must drink. 

While dating can be fun and it's exciting to meet new people but it's also important to protect yourself always...I hope these information helps. 

Have fun and be safe! 😘

Do you have any dating stories, advice / tips to share?...Comment below. 

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Change The World..Teach Music! 🎼

There are many things in life that I am crazy about and MUSIC is one of them! 😎

I Love Music! I love to sing and I took part in many singing contests in the past. (Hmm, I really missed those glamorous days, performing on stage!lol..😁😍) I also enjoy live bands, writing songs and playing musical instruments too.

 

When someone talks about Music, songwriting, favorite bands or musical instruments, etc.. I swear the conversation can go on for days. Lolz! Music gets me through good and bad days, it's like a heartbeat that flows inside me. I never get bored with music and I need Music everyday! 🎧🎶

I appreciate good Music and a great song is like a therapy, not only it helps me to relax, it also calms my mind...and happy songs make me feel positive about life! Music is an inspiration. Many lyrics in the songs are so touching and meaningful that express different emotions.

Indeed, music inspired people and connects the world! Over the years, I made many cool friends who are music fanatics like me and we often exchange ideas and techniques to improve our skills in playing different musical instruments.

Just a little background about myself...I played the Trombone and Tenor Saxophone during high school. Look, I still have my Band Major Badge and Sash here with me..Pretty cool and vintage, right? Looking at these cool badges bring back many fond memories of my school band.

My passion and the love for Music bloom, ever since ......

I've always wanted to learn the guitar but as a teen back then, money was tight.. I couldn't afford a guitar but I didn't want to ask money from my Mum, so I started to work at 7-Eleven (My first job) during school vacations and finally got my first guitar at the cash converter shop! The sound quality and the condition of the guitar wasn't that great but I was still happy to own my very first acoustic guitar.🎸

Every day, I spent about 1-2hrs playing the guitar till my fingers were sore and I've watched countless guitar tutorial videos on Youtube and that really helped... After a few months of practicing, I finally could play many popular pop songs on my guitar.

So I figured that self-learning is still possible if you don't want to spend much on music lessons, but if you can afford the money and really want be a professional musician in your career, it will be good to get a certified and experienced music teacher to guide you along.

From Youtube, I learned to play the drums as well but since drums are loud, I have to practice drumming at the jamming studio as I don't want the neighbors to complain about the noise when I practice drumming afew hours every day, so I bought a Yamaha digital drum kit to practice at home, with the headphones. 

Playing music makes you feel energetic, it makes you look cool and feel young too! There are so many health benefits when you play a musical instrument. It stimulates the brain, boosts your memory, self-confidence, build creative minds and the list goes on...

In recent years, I've also learned to play the Ukulele. I love it because it sound so lively and joyful! I see many kids having fun learning the Ukulele in school. It's lightweight and easy to carry around, unlike guitars and drums that are quite bulky..hence, traveling and transportation can be quite a hassle sometimes...

I take my Uke to birthday parties,

bbq, gatherings and jam with my music buddies! There are so many great songs you can play on the ukulele and the guitar. I really think Ukulele is a cool instrument, suitable for the young and old. 

As a busy Mum with daily routines, family commitments, work assignments and online orders, I haven't been playing music actively but I still 'bond' with my favorite instruments whenever I'm free or in the mood...

A few months ago, the RC committee in-charge asked me to form an Interest group for Ukulele that allows the residents to learn and play together on weekends. It was a perfect timing as they are people in my neighborhood who are so keen and ready to learn the Ukulele.

I have started teaching Basic Ukulele afew weeks ago, the class is on every Sunday and I hope to bring Music into the neighborhood! So if you love Ukulele, you are welcome to join us and learn together. Email me if you are interested. 

My personal advice to anyone who wants to learn a musical instrument... Put your heart and efforts to learn, no one is too old or too slow to learn an instrument, don't let anything stop you from learning! Age is only a number, so long as you have the passion for music and still able to move your limbs freely. You can learn almost anything! 😉

Don't give up just because you keep playing the wrong notes, no one is born a musician and practice makes perfect! Keep in mind that Music is supposed to be fun and entertaining, it should never feel like a race or make you feel stressed!

Don't rush and push yourself too hard!..Follow your comfort pace. Don't feel discouraged if you can't play a song yet, everyone has different learning speed and ability. Babies first learn to crawl before they start to walk. Patience.

I'm really happy and feel honored to teach anyone who wants to learn the Uke. Though I'm not a professional musician who sings or plays music for a living, but I'm willing to share my music knowledge for free! 

To me, life isn't always about money!
I know there are many people out there who love music and wants to learn an instrument so badly, but they couldn't afford expensive music schools/courses.. so providing free
Music lessons will encourage them to keep on learning. 

The biggest joy about teaching music is when the students could finally play a decent song smoothly on the Ukulele! Oh wow! That to me, is the most rewarding achievement! 

I always encourage people to pursue their interests. Don't worry about what others think. Learning an instrument is truly awesome! Just go ahead, play the instruments that you love and have fun! 

Music is beautiful and soulful...it has no boundaries and it benefits everyone! So grab the Uke and start jamming'..Rock on! 🤘🤘😎


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Tips On Managing Stress & Negative Emotions💡🆘

Let's talk about STRESS⚠️ 

Everyone experiences stress in daily life. Stress on work projects, family matters, parenting, relationships, financial, school exams, and the list goes on...

I have the opportunity to interact with people from different walks of life via phones, emails and social media lately and I realized that many are battling with stress/depression, so I thought I should blog on this subject and share my personal tips on how I deal with stress and my negative emotions. 

 
Now, take a moment to think...

Why do you feel stressed, unhappy, angry or depressed? What exactly is bothering you? Was it someone that pisses you? nasty remarks? some past incidents or bad experiences that upset you? Have a thought about that one! 

It is important to find out the ROOT of the problem that causes all these negative feelings. Without knowing what triggers stress, it's hard to deal with negative emotions. 

Well, you could find a psychiatrist or a therapist for help but they might not solve your problems because they won't be able to eliminate all your stress and negative feelings so ultimately, it is YOU who must help yourself to manage your emotions in a long run, because no one knows you better than yourself! 😉

Don't get me wrong, people! I have a lot of respect for doctors/physicians and their professions, they are very important in our society. I truly admire their medical knowledge and the sacred oath to save lives... 

Unfortunately, many people are struggling with prolonged stress and depression but they are unable to get much help and can't afford expensive therapy sessions.

 
So before you rush to get yourself diagnosed with Depression, Anxiety, etc.. you can try some tips and adjust your lifestyle with good habits & routines. If you feel that things are still not improving and you are getting more emotional...PLEASE seek professional help and see a doctor soon.

Here are my 12 Tips To Manage Stress -(*Contents for reference only, no medical information intended)

Tip #1: Organize Your Time. Don't rely on your memory, use a diary or a notepad. Set reminders alarms on your phone for daily important tasks and upcoming appointments. 

Tip #2: Don't Skip Breakfast. It is the most important meal of the day. Don't start the day with an empty stomach because you may feel restless and unfocused at work/school. Hence, making mistakes that cause stress again. Drink enough water every day, I like Green Tea, Flower Tea and fruit juice, they are so good and refreshing.👍

Tip #3: Don't stay at home all day. Go out! Inhale the scent of nature, get some fresh air and Sunshine! 🌞 You can take a walk at the beach/park /garden/ or just taking a bus ride and do some light shopping at the mall. Keep yourself occupied with some things to do so you don't have too much free time to overthink. 

Tip #4: Turn on the radio and listen to some music! Good music can reduce stress and brightens up your day. Watch a comedy and have a good laugh! Laughter is often the best healer and it doesn't cost a cent! 😍

Tip #5: Do some Sports. You don't have to be a professional athlete. Sweat it out! A good workout can help reduce stress. I play Basketball and I enjoy shooting the ball into the basket and it reminds me that as long as you keep moving and stay focused, you'll reach your goals! It's a pretty cool sport.. not only it makes you slimmer, but it also makes you fitter too! 😘

Tip #6: Meditate for 10-15 mins every day if you can. Find a quiet place, visualize the flowing water or the sea waves and control your breathing. You can use diffusers if you are into Aromatherapy like me. My favorite is, Ylang-Ylang, Tea Tree and Chamomile.

Tip #7: Have some dark chocolates or light Ice-creams. I have sweet tooth and I do feel happier after having some yummy desserts, but do not eat them every day,  especially if you are on a diet.Lol 😁

Tip #8: Stay away from toxic people! You don't need negative vibes from them to add more stress. Hang around with happy, positive people who are fun, friendly, helpful and supportive. You'll feel more lively and happier too.


Tip #9: Take a long beauty bath and pamper yourself! Go for body massage if you can spend a bit or ask your partner to give you a massage, Lol.. that way, you can have some romantic couple time without spending too much money. (Bonus!)👍


Tip #10: Get Enough Sleep. Be nice to your body. Good sleep is important for both the young and old, it helps to reduce stress but make sure your bedroom is well-ventilated and clean. I don't think anyone can really have a good sleep in a stuffy and cluttered room.


Tip #11: Take Pride in your Appearance. You don't have to dress like a Fashion chic or a Supermodel but basic grooming is still necessary, because when you dress well and look good, you feel more confident and great about yourself too, well..who doesn't like compliments, right? 😊That's a huge boost to reduce stress.


Tip #12: Set Realistic Goals. You are not a robot or Superman. There is no need to push yourself so hard to achieve all your goals in the shortest time. We are not in a race, so move at your own pace that you feel comfortable. There is no need to follow the majority crowd. It is OK to be different! Don't create unnecessary competitions for yourself. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses.

These are some tips on how I deal with my daily emotions. Stress is NOT a disease, it doesn't always need long term medication or therapy in my opinion. 

However, if stress is not well-controlled, it can lead to more serious mental health problems like depression, panic attacks, anxiety, low self-esteem, self-harm and even suicides. 

Be mindful that there will be many different challenges in life and stress is unavoidable, but we can learn to take charge and control our emotions and mental health. Feed your mind with happy thoughts and positive vibes because only YOU have the ability to control your emotions. Remember, it's just a bad day...NOT a bad life! 😎😘

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Special Announcement & Updates 📣

Hey guys! I have been super busy lately but I thought I should update my loyal readers here in case anyone misses me...LOL! Wonder where have I been lately...? Slaying bullies & villains?😝 Naah..I'll save those actions for later perhaps...Hehe!😙

Well..I'm still very active on social network daily, especially Instagram. Recently, my blog was shared actively on social media and I have been invited for paid Ad-hoc assignments to write reviews for some products, services and Parenting advice...So now you know why I haven't blog for awhile here because I have been doing alot of writing privately...😉

Last month, I hosted an AMA discussion on Amafeed.com It's a great experience and I really enjoy interacting with the audiences. Wow! Some of the questions are pretty interesting and I am happy to share my thoughts there and via emails on the related topics of my AMA/blog niche.

Meanwhile.. you can check out my AMA link here 👉 mommywarrior77 is on AMAfeed.com  to understand more about me and perhaps you could benefit from the advise and thoughts that I shared on my AMA.Who knows! 😊

I may be hosting another AMA discussion, hopefully soon when I'm done with all my assignments and some private stuff but don't worry..Blogging Is My Passion so I will still continue to Blog and put my emotions and thoughts into words...I have also drafted out some tasteful topics/contents that I think my readers may be interested, so do stick around! 😁

Anyway, if you can't remember my URL or blog address, links, etc... just go to Google Search and type, "mommywarrior77" You'll find me on the top main feeds and all my recent posts on my social media accounts.

Ah yes... last but not least, I would also like to take this opportunity to thank the ladies (BN Admin) who messaged me earlier on FB and introduced AMA. 

I'm very grateful and feel honored that my AMA/blog was featured on their Facebook & Instagram. I truly appreciate the boost of awareness and I like to thank all the readers and my followers who spent time reading my blogs and the comments on my AMA.😘

Go on! #Ask Me Anything, lol..Please feel free to write to me if you have any questions related the my blog topics / niches. I am pleased to share my knowledge and personal advise to anyone. Till then..Stay connected! Be Kind & Be Nice...Peace!😎✌️


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I Wrote My Songs 🎼

I feel very honored to be invited to a launch party last evening. It was a private event, strictly by invitation so I brought my sister along since we both love Chinese Pop Music.😘

Last year, I took part in a Song Writing Contest organized by SGSW [我写我的歌 2017] I'm happy to contribute my work and be part of this music event. For the record, over 450 songs (including my songs) were submitted last year and only 1 winner for this contest. I finally met the winner in person when he sang his song with his keyboard on stage last evening...

It was a touching, sad love song [请你记得我] and I like it! 😝 Personally, if any songs that connect your emotions, touches your heart..a song that can make you cry, laugh and the lyrics stay in your head...That's a good song/music in my opinion.😎

It was a nice outdoor party held at the Roof Garden of Singapore Chinese Cultural Centre (SCCC). We enjoyed great live music performance and the beautiful evening sceneries around, food and drinks were provided as well..What an awesome party! 👍

Music is my passion! I love writing my songs, playing my guitar, ukulele and drums. I shall submit my new song when it's completed.😉

I hope more people will support our local talents and musicians. Who knows there could be many more local talents like JJLin and Stefanie Sun for the Chinese music industry.

Winning the contest is secondary to me..I just wanna' write my songs, let music be my voice and let my songs be heard...Anyway, win or lose, it doesn't really matter, because in the end, I still gain another experience...Well, at least the panel of judges have heard my songs,lol..so, may the best man/song wins!😉

Till then, I'll update my new blog soon, do stick around folks..Cheers! 😘🥂

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