10 Things What Women Really Want🌹

"A woman's heart is a deep ocean of secrets..."

Remember this famous quote from the movie, Titanic? (I've watched it for at least 5times.lol)

So the notion of the quote may be true...but getting to know women is not as hard as you think, but it is indeed important to understand what women really want instead of guessing what's on her mind, that can save you a lot of rejections, heartaches, cold wars and unhappy relationships.

Men often think women are hard to please, without a clue what's going on...How many times we heard the guys complaining to their buddies, "I don't know what's wrong with my girlfriend?", "I don't know what my wife wants from me?" 

Okay dudes! It's pretty simple. Your partner wants time, she wants your attention and she wants you! 😉

We understand men are not mind readers and no one have time for mind games anyway, we get it!  However, we can't always tell men what to do and what we want from them, after all, being demanding and controlling can causes red flags too.

But there are ways to tell what a woman wants, from her body language, her gestures, eye contacts and the tone of her voice. If you take some efforts to understand women better, you'll soon unlock the 'secrets' and even enhance the relationship.

Whether you are married, in a relationship or just started dating, here are some information and tips to help you understand what women really wants. (Dear men/husbands, please take some time to read this.😁) 

1. Communication

Proper communication is the key ingredient in every long-lasting, healthy relationship. Talk often, share your dreams and goals. Listen without judging and don't interrupt even when you don't agree with her views and beliefs. The objective of good communication is not to debate or to create a fight, but an interaction to listen and understand your partner better.

2. Respect

No relationship can survive without respect. Respect comes in many forms. Always treat a woman right! No one likes to be disrespected and mistreated in an abusive relationship. If you treat her like a Queen, she will treat you like a King! 👑

3. Saying (I Love You)

It doesn't matter how long you've been married or how long you have been together. The 3 magic words never gets old. I know some guys are too shy to express themselves and feel mushy to say those words out loud, but you can look into her eyes and whisper in her ears. Your partner love hearing those words but make sure you say it sincerely from your heart.

4. Be True and Faithful

No woman wants a player or a heart-breaker! It's never cool to toy with feelings, if you can't commit in a serious relationship and be true to her, you need to back off and let her go.

5. Affection (Hugs, cuddles & kisses)

Women wants quality couple time, just the two of you. In my opinion, there is no such thing as too much cuddles and kisses in a relationship. Physical intimacy is a couple bond, a connection with your partner and affection strengthens relationship. Give her the attention she needs. Everyone loves to feel needed and wanted.

6. Understanding and Supportive

We all have bad days or feeling under the weather sometimes. Give her some space, offer some comforts and listening ears instead of blaming her for being moody. Show her that you love and care for her. Women want men to be there for her and to work things out together. Relationship is a teamwork and it takes two to tango.

7. Protection and Sense of Security

Every woman loves a man who protects her and keep her safe, knowing that you will always have her back makes her feel loved, valued and cherished.  

8. Holding Hands

I can't speak for all the women on this one but I personally love holding hands, it makes me feel warm and comforting. Awww...how lovey-dovey when I see couples holding hands on the street or at the beach...Take my hand, honey! 👫

9. Surprises

Guys, we don't need diamonds, flowers, expensive gifts or fancy dinners to make us happy. Sweet surprises can be anything like buying a snack/dessert that she is craving for, a cute plushie that she like or breakfast in bed etc...it's the effort and sincerity that matters!

10. Compliments and Praises

Do you remember when is the last time you praise your partner? The fact is, you don't need to be a sweet talker and find the perfect words to say something nice. If your partner look gorgeous in that dress, cooks a nice meal or does something extra special for you. Thank her and let her know you appreciate it. Who doesn't love some compliments, right? Never take anything and anyone for granted!

There you go! I hope this information help but I'm sure there are more to add to the list. I am not a dating/relationship expert here, but I believe these are the top list that what women want from their partner in a serious and committed relationship.

So ladies, what do you think? Share with me and comment below if I miss out anything and share this blog with your friends if you love the tips.😎

Tips To Save Money & Spend Wisely💰

Do you feel anxious every time you look at your bank account and sometimes wonder, where did the money go? 🤔💸

Let's face it! We live in one of the most expensive cities in the world. We all know money is so important. We need money for food, utilities, transports, education, essential stuff and the list goes on.

It doesn't matter how much money you make, if you don't know how to manage your financial and control your spending habits, you'll end up being broke all the time, or worst, heavily in debts! 

The economy is badly affected by the global outbreak, many have lost their jobs and businesses are closing down, there are many uncertainty ahead...Therefore, saving for a rainy day is necessary because you never know when an emergency may strike. A reserved / emergency fund (saving) could comes in handy to tide over the difficult times.

The most common problem that causes debt, is BAD spending habits. Unfortunately, many people spent more than they earn, hence, they fail to save at all when they overspent every month! That is a serious matter and a nasty habit that leads to financial problems.

I'm not a financial expert. I know it's not always easy to save up, especially for those who have lower incomes or doesn't have a fixed salary, but the biggest obstacle is getting started! Yes, it takes some efforts and a good saving strategy, but you need to take the first step and let it roll. Don't stress over how little you save, as long as you start, your saving will grow gradually.

Here are some tips that may help you save money :

1. Limit your spending

Always set a budget on how much money you can spend per month and do NOT exceed the limit. That gives you a guideline on your monthly spending pattern.

2. Don't carry too much cash

Digital payment like PayLah, PayNow, GrabPay and GooglePay are very convenient these days. When you carry too much cash, chances are you may be tempted to spend unnecessarily. 

3. Avoid using credit cards

Stop swiping the credits cards for every purchase. Keep them at home. (Use it only when it's necessary) It's all about self-discipline. Use the ATMs and debit cards instead.

4. Pay all your bills on time

Avoid late/overdue payments and always pay your bills in full. It's easier to track your spending and monthly expenses. This will prevent the outstanding bills to snowball and late fees charges.

5. Keep coin banks

I have a few coin banks around the house, I teach my kids the importance of saving money and it's always better to start saving when you are young. Save the coins and don't underestimate those piggy banks. My last coin deposit credited over $300 worth of coins.

6. Avoid impulsive buying

Maybe you really love that dress, the sneakers or that limited edition watch, but wait for a week or two, you may change your mind. We sometimes buy things that we don't really need or rarely use, and that is a waste of money. Go for values instead of the big brands.

7. Take public buses / trains

You don't need to take a cab every day unless you are rushing for urgent appointments, feeling unwell and carry bulky stuff etc.. Buses and trains still take you from Point A to Point B. It's much cheaper and convenient too.

8. Garage sale

Sell away things you don't need, perhaps an old TV, the golf clubs or a bicycle that is sitting in the store for years. List them on free classified ads or sell them at cash converters, it's a great way to generate some cash and de-clutter the house.

9. Don't try to impress others

Don't go broke trying to look rich! What's the point of driving a posh car with an empty bank account?

10. Take good care of your health

Do some exercise, eat well and stay healthy. That could save you the clinic trips and doctors fees.

*BONUS TIPS* 

Invest carefully and wisely

Before you invest anything, do some homework and market research. Be careful with investment plans or packages that 'promise' rewards/profits/interests that sounds too good to be true. Never sign anything when you have doubts. Online scams and con-artists are everywhere, don't be the next victim and risk all your hard-earned money.

If you need help or advice to manage your debts, check out this link for more information.

👉 https://www.ccs.org.sg/

Keep in mind that it is never too late to start saving. Money do not save on its own unless you do it! 

Set realistic saving plans/goals. Even if you only manage to save $10 a month, do it anyway because it is still better than saving none. The flowers doesn't bloom overnight, be patient, keep moving and let the saving grow...🌱

Whether you are saving up to buy a new car, a new house, for college or retirement, etc.. Saving money doesn't mean you have to live a super frugal lifestyle and feel miserable everyday.

You can still enjoy your favorite Ice-creams at Swensen's and your Cappuccinos at Starbucks as long as you manage your financial well, take control of your money and spend within your budget.

The fundamental of saving is to earmark for emergencies, unexpected expenses, financial freedom, staying debt-free and other long-term plans for the future.

Cultivate good habits and motivate yourself to save for a rainy day even when the sun is shining... Start saving today! 

Do you have any personal tips on saving money? Share your comments below.😉

Lessons I Learned From My Mom🌹

Mother's Day is a beautiful occasion to celebrate motherhood, maternal bonds and the contributions of mothers in our society. 

My mother has inspired me to be a better and stronger person today. Kind, loving and generous. She is one of the strongest and toughest woman I ever known. A woman full of strength and courage, she never back down and she is always positive about life in every situation. My mom is someone whom I look up to, an amazing woman I truly respect and admire...

In honor of Mother's Day, this is a blog to express my appreciation and gratitude for her hard work, sacrifices and the valuable life lessons my mom has taught me.

Important Life Lessons From Mom :

Family comes first

Always protect your family and love your children unconditionally. Nothing in the world is more important than family.

Learn to cook

My mom is a great cook! She believes, 
"A way to a man's heart is through his stomach...'' (Oh mom...😅) When I was little, she would asked me to help in the kitchen, chopping the onions, garlic, pounding the spices and I would watched her cook everyday. She believes home-cooked meals are the best and much healthier. With the culinary skills today, I enjoy cooking & baking because it's a joy to cook for the family.

Treat everyone the same

Never be arrogant. Whether they are cabbies or the CEOs, everyone deserves respect and to be treated equally.

Be kind and help others

Kindness is a virtue. My mom has a heart of gold. She would help the poor, the needy and the less fortunate. I do volunteer work because I believe in giving back to the society, to offer help and support to our community. The world need more empathy and compassion.

Have more patience

Well, I have to admit this is a tough one...I'm not the most patient person in the world, but I will try my best to work on it! 

Never give up

Like a warrior, my mom is a fighter, she taught me to be brave and strong, to keep trying and never give up hope no matter how hard the situation is! "Where there is life, there is hope..."

Keep some money aside

Save for a rainy day. Ah yes...a wise advice! Always keep some extra cash or a reserved fund, you never know when you need it!

Keep learning and exploring

As a child, my mom would encourage me to follow my passion, interests and to keep learning as much as possible. She never stop me from playing music or joining the singing contests, etc... Even when I didn't do much to make her proud, she never rain on my parade. She is always there to cheer for me and I thank her for believing in me.

Choose your friends wisely

It doesn't matter how big the circle of friends you have, it's the TRUE ones that matters!
Friends can influence your thoughts, actions and behaviors, so be careful who you surround yourself with. Mama is right! 

Live with integrity

My mom live a honest and humble life. She taught me the values of being true and upright, to speak with honesty and act with integrity. I raise my head high, each and every day...

Be thankful

Despite all the storms and difficult times, my mom doesn't complain. She is always grateful about life and counting the blessings...

Life doesn't come with a manual, it comes with a mother. I thank my mom for being there to support and guide me over the years... 

Sometimes, we may not share the same views, beliefs or have different ways of expressing ourselves, but in the end... All mothers have the best interests at heart for the children and the family.

...The combination of the purest love, kindness and patience can never be replaced...🌹

What are some lessons your mom have taught you? Share with me and comment below.😉

12 Signs That A Man Loves You 💘

Do you sometimes wonder?... Is the guy that you are dating really loves you? You could try plucking petals to get an answer,(lol) but the best way to know is to observe.


Well, I am not an expert in giving relationship/dating advice but based on my personal experience and observations, there are obvious signs that a guy is deeply in love with you.

Most men aren't good at expressing their romantic feelings to their partner, however, actions and behaviors can tell how much they love you. Don't just fall for sweet talks, lovebirds! Words are only plain texts unless they are proven! After all, actions speak louder than words. Remember...Love is not what you say, love is what you do! 😘

So here are some undeniable signs that a guy is really into you...💕


1) He wants you to be happy.
He cares about your happiness and emotions. When you are sad, he tries different ways to cheer you up, to make you smile again.


2) He is always there for you.
Anytime you need him, he gets to you the fastest he can, to be your support, a listener, he offer comfort and a shoulder to lean on.

3) He cooks for you.
Nothing is sweeter than a man who cooks for his love. Even a simple sandwich or a bowl of soup can taste the sweetest! I love a man who cooks! Hey, who doesn't like to be fed with love? 😁

4) He tries to please you.
Whether he is learning a new language or singing your favorite love songs just to make you happy. That really shows how special you are to him, because "You Are The Reason"🎶

5) He thinks about you all the time.
You are always on his mind and he misses you every day.  He wants to talk to you and listen to your voice. He asks about your day, reminds you to eat your meals. He sends you sweet love notes and cute texts the first thing in the morning when he wakes up.


6) He takes good care of you.
When you are unwell, he accompanies you to the clinic, he checks on you every few hours, making sure that you will take the medication on time and have enough rest, etc...


7) He compliments you.
He praises and celebrates your success and achievements. He compliments about your personality, your strength and natural beauty. Even when you don't wear any make-up, he still finds you beautiful, attractive and he love the way you are! He makes you feel good and confident about yourself.


8) He makes you a priority.

I believe when someone truly cares for you, they will find time! Even if it's only a few hours to be together for a dinner or a stroll at the beach, he is happy to spend time with you.


9) He doesn't give up the relationship easily.
It is common to have disagreements and arguments in any relationship. If a guy truly loves you, he will find solutions to fix the problems and work things out together to keep the relationship going.


10) He is happy and excited to see you.
He keeps smiling  every time when he meets you, he looks into your eyes and gives you full attention. He keep you close, he love holding your hands, making you feel warm and comfortable.


11) He protects you.
This is the most obvious sign when a man loves you, he is willing to be your shield in any danger. Like a knight in shining armor, he won't let anyone hurt you. He will do his best to make you feel secure and keep you safe always.


12) He shares his dreams, tells his family and friends about you.
When a guy introduces you to his family, it is a sign that he is serious about you and he wants you to be part of the family. He wants you to be in his life and to build a future together. 

Falling in love is easy but staying in love requires a lot of hard work and patience because relationships can be confusing and tricky at times...


People say love is blind (they are probably right!) Nonetheless, I do believe true love exists and if you ever find a man who does most of the things listed here, don't lose that gem! He's definitely a keeper!👍

"Happiness is to love and be loved..."

                         

Dating Advice : The DOs and DON'Ts ⚠️

So, I hung out with my good friends the other day and we were chatting about our best/worst dates...and I thought maybe I should blog on this topic today! 😊

Well, I'm not a dating expert here, but I'm not new to dating so I'll share my personal experience, some advice and tips with the readers. 

If you are searching for Mr/Ms Right, but hasn't had much progress so far and wonder what went wrong, here are some dating advise/tips for reference. 

We all know that First Impression is very important, so it is necessary to know the DOs & DON'Ts and some safety tips on the first date.

        

1) Be Punctual

I know unforeseen events are unavoidable and if you are late, do make a call to explain and apologize sincerely. I don't like being late and nobody enjoys waiting. I'm always slightly earlier or on time. People who are punctual always give me the best impression because it tells me how well they manage the time and how much they value the date/appointment. 

2) Dress Appropriately

You don't have to dress like a Superstar or wear a tuxedo on your first date but basic grooming is still necessary. Wear something smart, neat and comfortable that fit the occasion. Remember, it is a date, NOT an interview! But avoid wearing singlets, sweatpants, shorts and slippers unless you are meeting at the beach, bbq, etc... 

3) Maintain Gentle Eye Contact and Smile 

The eyes are the window to the soul and I believe eyes don't lie! I know some people are very shy and they avoid looking into the eyes, but if your eyes are wandering elsewhere during a conversation, your date may feel that you are bored and uninterested. However, if you keep staring into the eyes, that could make some people feel uneasy too. So just be natural, smile and look at the face when they speak. 

4) Put Down The Phone

Mobile phones are so important in our daily life and I know most people are attached to their phones, all the time!...checking their social media, emails, texting and playing online games etc..but if you are constantly checking and tapping your phone every few mins, then you are not giving full attention to your date and that is not going to leave any good impression for sure! 

5) Relax and Take It Easy

Some people get really nervous on a first date. They start to tense up, fidget and become clumsy at times. I once went on a dinner date...The poor guy was so nervous that he knocked over the glass a few times and had to rush to the washroom to clean up. Omg, it was hilarious! So just chill and breathe... 

6) Keep The Conversation Fun and Interesting

There may be awkward moments of silence when you can't think of any interesting topics to break the ice and to keep the conversation going. I would suggest talking about hobbies, music, movies and interests for a start and take it from there... Don't be the only one talking, ask questions and let the conversation flow.

Jokes are fine but keep it mild on the first date! Nobody wants to date someone who acts like a clown. Laughing and cracking jokes throughout the dinner aren't very cool! Avoid dirty jokes / dark humor on a first date because it may be inappropriate and offensive for some people, so do be more sensitive.

7) NEVER Talk About Your Ex!!! (A Big No-No!)

Indeed! You probably heard this a thousand times! Talking about your ex on your first date is never encouraged! That is one of the Biggest deal breaker! I do think most people are aware but sometimes.. words, places, songs may trigger past memories and they start talking about their ex unintentionally, without realizing a huge mistake they made! 

Be careful not to get too emotional on your first date. No one likes to hear sad, break up stories so it's time to let go and move on...Let history be history! especially when you are dating someone new. 

If a guy start talking about his ex-girlfriends on our first date. He probably will never hear from me again! lolz! I do understand everyone has a past but if someone keeps talking about their past relationships then they are probably not ready to start a new relationship, in my opinion.

8) Be Polite

Maybe the person isn't what you are looking for or maybe there isn't any chemistry...but you can still be friends! There is no need to get upset or feel depressed."There are plenty of fish in the sea!" It's no big deal if the date didn't work out.

9) Don't Move Too Fast

Ok dudes! I know she is cute, sweet and attractive but don't get too physical/intimate on the first date! Take it slow and watch the body language. If your date is not ready, don't keep pushing and trying so hard, because that will only push her away in the end! Surely you don't want to scare her, so be respectful and a real gentleman! 😎

10) Arrange The Next Date 

If the date went well and you would like to meet up again... Be spontaneous and make the first move! Don't wait too long to ask her out again. You can plan a movie date, an outing, picnic, sports, etc..

11) Meet At Public Places 

NEVER meet in secluded places, hotel rooms or an apartment. Always let a trusted friend know you are meeting someone on a date, so they have some information and know your whereabouts.

12) Stay Away From Alcohol

It doesn't matter how well you hold the liquor. Alcohol can cause serious danger! (If you get drunk) I'm sure you have heard scary stories and nasty news of victims on their first date. Unfortunately, scammers and con-artists are everywhere! Always stay alert and trust your gut. If you don't feel right, leave immediately! 

If you must use the washroom..Never drink the same glass when you are back! (just to be safe!) It is OK not to finish everything, you can always ask for a new glass if you must drink. 

While dating can be fun and it's exciting to meet new people but it's also important to protect yourself always...I hope these information helps. 

Have fun and be safe! 😘

Do you have any dating stories, advice / tips to share?...Comment below. 

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