The Myths Of Motherhood ⚠️

Ok mama! I'm sure we've all heard some myths of motherhood.

I remember when I became a mother. Friends, relatives and even random strangers will offer some interesting information about motherhood; the classic myths, the old wives tales but sadly, social phenomenon can sometimes do more harm than help and that makes motherhood a lot harder than it is. 

Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love being a mom and I'm thankful to have 2 lovely children but the struggle is real! From conception, pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding and parenting...The different stages of motherhood brings different emotions of excitement, fear, joy and many overwhelming experiences. 

The journey of motherhood is challenging but it's definitely worth it! However, many misinformation and misconceptions can often caused moms to get judged brutally and unfairly, these myths impact many moms that made them feel bad, guilty and shamed. 

Here are some myths that I have heard, in my journey of motherhood...

Myth #1 : "Breastfeeding help you lose weight..."

Well, I heard this one all the time but too bad it didn't work for me!Lol. I breastfeed for about 15months for my firstborn and the truth is (*at least in my personal experience) I get super hungry after I breastfeed many times a day and I actually eat more, I don't see a significant drop on the scale so this one is busted! (*for me)

Myth #2 : "Breastfeeding is a natural thing!" 

We all know "Breast Is Best" and I fully support breastfeeding campaigns and giving our babies the best nutrients, but sometimes it's not always easy for new mothers. Breastfeeding is a process that requires patience, determination and proper techniques.

Personally, I love the bonding and the skin-to-skin contact when I nurse my baby but breastfeeding can be uncomfortable, exhausting and inconvenience especially when you are in public places and there is no nursing room nearby. It can be quite embarrassing when the milk leaks, imagine walking around with a soaked blouse, oh gosh! Nonetheless, my breastfeeding journey has been a memorable experience but I don't miss it! 😅

I strongly believe every mom wants the best for their child so whether you breastfeed for a month, for a year or even longer, it doesn't make you less or more of a mother. 

I see many new moms struggling with breastfeeding, feeling immense shame for poor lactation and blaming themselves for not providing enough breast milk. Please don't be too hard on yourself, mummies! Not all moms have a milk supply of a fountain. Breastfeed as long as you can and it's OK to stop when you need to. 

Myth #3 : "A mom should dress like a mom." 

This is one hilarious remark! I mean seriously, is there actually a mom's 'outfit'? Ok, I get the point but in my opinion, I feel that every mom should allow to dress whatever that makes them feel beautiful, comfortable and confident. There is nothing wrong if the mom wants to wear the mini skirt or that bikini, etc...The way we dress has nothing to do with the status of motherhood.  

Myth #4 : "You are the mom, you should fix the problems!"

We often see people pointing fingers and start blaming the poor mother when the child misbehaved. People are too quick to judge without a clue what exactly happened. Hang on! Moms are not problem solvers, we are only humans. Be kind to mothers, we are learning, we trying very hard everyday, we get tired and we made mistakes too. Be more supportive and encouraging instead of mom-shaming. 

Myth #5 : "Csection isn't a real birth..." 

The controversy of Cesarean vs Natural Birth is totally pointless. What matters most is the safety of the baby and the mother. 

I had Csect twice, probably the most nerve-wrecking ordeal of my life when the gynecologist told me I had to go for an emergency c-section when the dilation was slow. I was scared and didn't know what to expect but I didn't care about the procedure and how long the recovery would takes, all I wanted was to bring my baby out safely. 

Not all labors are fast and smooth, some are long and traumatic. The birthing methods should never define the labor of love and motherhood. All births are amazing, it doesn't matter how it happens, both takes much courage and strength.💪😎

Myth #6 : "You will enjoy being a mom every day!" 

As much as I love my kids and they are my world, but there are some days I wish I can take a day off, just relax, do my own stuff and hang out with my besties. Kids can sometimes get you so annoyed and stressed-out with their constant whining and tantrums. We all have bad days, mummies need a little break and some space too. 

Myth #7 : "Asking for help is a sign of weakness..."

No, surely not! Mothers are multi-taskers and they play many roles. It is not humanly possible to manage everything alone! We all need help from time to time, so don't feel weak to ask for help, it's better to get some help than dealing with all the meltdowns that could affect your emotions and mental well-being.

As mothers, we need to take care of ourselves first in order to take care of the children and our family. Don't be afraid to reach out for some support and assistance. 

The judgement from society can be unjustified and cruel, we need to detach the myths of motherhood from reality, besides, there is no fixed formula for motherhood. Every child and every situation is different, do not let negative beliefs and stereotype criticism affect your role as a mother. Do what is best for your children and the family! 😉

"A mother's love is instinctual, unconditional and forever..."

What are some interesting myths you heard, share with me and comment below.

Lessons I Learned From My Mom🌹

Mother's Day is a beautiful occasion to celebrate motherhood, maternal bonds and the contributions of mothers in our society. 

My mother has inspired me to be a better and stronger person today. Kind, loving and generous. She is one of the strongest and toughest woman I ever known. A woman full of strength and courage, she never back down and she is always positive about life in every situation. My mom is someone whom I look up to, an amazing woman I truly respect and admire...

In honor of Mother's Day, this is a blog to express my appreciation and gratitude for her hard work, sacrifices and the valuable life lessons my mom has taught me.

Important Life Lessons From Mom :

Family comes first

Always protect your family and love your children unconditionally. Nothing in the world is more important than family.

Learn to cook

My mom is a great cook! She believes, 
"A way to a man's heart is through his stomach...'' (Oh mom...😅) When I was little, she would asked me to help in the kitchen, chopping the onions, garlic, pounding the spices and I would watched her cook everyday. She believes home-cooked meals are the best and much healthier. With the culinary skills today, I enjoy cooking & baking because it's a joy to cook for the family.

Treat everyone the same

Never be arrogant. Whether they are cabbies or the CEOs, everyone deserves respect and to be treated equally.

Be kind and help others

Kindness is a virtue. My mom has a heart of gold. She would help the poor, the needy and the less fortunate. I do volunteer work because I believe in giving back to the society, to offer help and support to our community. The world need more empathy and compassion.

Have more patience

Well, I have to admit this is a tough one...I'm not the most patient person in the world, but I will try my best to work on it! 

Never give up

Like a warrior, my mom is a fighter, she taught me to be brave and strong, to keep trying and never give up hope no matter how hard the situation is! "Where there is life, there is hope..."

Keep some money aside

Save for a rainy day. Ah yes...a wise advice! Always keep some extra cash or a reserved fund, you never know when you need it!

Keep learning and exploring

As a child, my mom would encourage me to follow my passion, interests and to keep learning as much as possible. She never stop me from playing music or joining the singing contests, etc... Even when I didn't do much to make her proud, she never rain on my parade. She is always there to cheer for me and I thank her for believing in me.

Choose your friends wisely

It doesn't matter how big the circle of friends you have, it's the TRUE ones that matters!
Friends can influence your thoughts, actions and behaviors, so be careful who you surround yourself with. Mama is right! 

Live with integrity

My mom live a honest and humble life. She taught me the values of being true and upright, to speak with honesty and act with integrity. I raise my head high, each and every day...

Be thankful

Despite all the storms and difficult times, my mom doesn't complain. She is always grateful about life and counting the blessings...

Life doesn't come with a manual, it comes with a mother. I thank my mom for being there to support and guide me over the years... 

Sometimes, we may not share the same views, beliefs or have different ways of expressing ourselves, but in the end... All mothers have the best interests at heart for the children and the family.

...The combination of the purest love, kindness and patience can never be replaced...🌹

What are some lessons your mom have taught you? Share with me and comment below.😉

My Mom, My Hero! 💖

Mama, 

As I flip through the old photo albums again, it brings back so many random memories... 


I still remember how you pat me to sleep every night...you must be so tired, I was such a clingy child! 

I remember you will always buy my favorite Ice-cream when I asked for one. I always get the biggest cone! 

I remember you took care of me when I was sick for weeks. I know you were so worried, so exhausted...You didn't get much sleep and had to get up early to work every day. 


I remember you were peeping through the windows to check on me, during my first day of school. I know you were as nervous as me...



I remember you rushed down to school when you forgot about my pocket money for recess. I could never forget that anxious look on your face. 


I remember the day I got hurt and injured my leg. You were shaken and helpless when you saw me screaming in pain. You rushed me to the nearest clinic. I know you were crying inside and it breaks your heart to see the bandage on my leg.

I remember that night you cried silently in your room when I didn't get good grades for my exams. I'm sorry that I let you down, I'm sorry that I made you cry, but please believe that I really tried...

I remember you warned me about the boys! You would nag all day and wait for me at the void deck when I came home late. I was mad at you for being controlling and overly protective but I know you did that because you care for me and want me to be home safe. I know you will always protect me and watch my back!

I remember you were hiding at the backstage during my performance in a singing contest. I saw you in the crowd later, smiling at me with a big thumb up when I made it to the finals. I think I made you proud that day!

I remember you were so happy for me when I got my driving license when I was 19, I took you out for a spin and we had a great celebration! 

I remember you held my hands tightly, the day I got married...I saw the happy tears in your eyes during the tea ceremony, but I know you felt very emotional that day... 

Mama, I know how much you love me, you have done so much over the years that I could never possibly list everything down here. No matter what I have done, you forgive me and you never give up on me! You always encourage me and give me support. You are always there to share my happiness and sadness.

Life was tough on you but you fought bravely and conquered the battles. I admire your strength and courage... You have taught me to be strong, to be positive and never to give up in life! You have a heart of gold. You taught me to be kind, selfless and to help others in need. You have raised me well and built a warrior in me! I have become a stronger and braver person today because of you. I will always teach my children the way you taught me.

Your hair has turned grey and your hands are wrinkled now, but in my eyes...you are always that beautiful and caring Angel who will always protect me and keep me safe from harm. Thank you so much for believing in me and taking good care of me. I'm truly grateful for your unconditional love, kindness, guidance and support.

No words or gifts can ever repay your love but still, I want to say a big thank you for everything you have done. You will always be my hero! Someone whom I look up to...I Love You, Mama!

I am writing this blog to express my appreciation and gratitude to my dear Mama for Mother's Day and I dedicate this to all the amazing mothers out there who truly deserve the highest respect and affirmation for their hard work and sacrifices. Motherhood is one of the most challenging job in the world but a very rewarding one as well.

Mother's Day is just a few days away but you can show love any day, any time! You don't have to wait for Mother's day to buy her a gift, give her a treat or take her out for a meal... 

Everyday can be Mother's Day too! 😉


Pick up the phone, give your Mom a call..give her a big warm hug and tell her how much you love her! That would be the sweetest and a priceless gift for every mother! 

Happy Mother's Day! Have a beautiful day filled with love, laughter and lots of cuddles! 👸😍💕🌷

Share this post to all the Supermoms in the world.. With love & blessings! ♥️

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