Why I Love Being A Mom - The Joy Of Motherhood 💖

       

                          

*A Special Blog For Mother's Day*

Motherhood is an incredible journey filled with discovery, immeasurable love and a chain of complex emotions. From conception, pregnancy and childbirth, these special moments are truly remarkable and beyond words...

Well, Motherhood doesn't come easy for me, it was an intense and dramatic journey...but thankfully, I FINALLY conceived my first child naturally, when my reproductive system decided to cooperate and 'activate' lol..and my 2nd child is a SG50 Jubilee Baby. The day I became a mother, marks the glorious moment of my life and I'm truly grateful for the gift of Motherhood. My children are my Sunshine and Happiness!🌞❤️

Despite many challenges and the unglamorous part of Motherhood, there are many wonderful moments and here's why...I Love Being A Mom :

1. Stronger and Positive Personality 💖
Being a mother has made me a better and stronger person. I didn't know I could multi-task and overcome all the challenges along the way. Raising a child is never easy, it's a long process that requires tons of patience, hard work and sacrifices. Motherhood has tap into my feminine side to be more empathetic, nurturing and compassionate towards people around me.

 

     

 

2. Being Their First Teacher🎓
Watching my kids grow everyday and unlock new milestones is a fulfilling experience. It's a sense of satisfaction to share my knowledge and teach my children about life and humanity. I am glad to be part of their life to encourage and inspire them to explore their strengths and potentials.

3. Joy and Laughter😄

Children brings joy and laughter into the family, they create a warm and lively ambience. Life is much interesting and meaningful with children around the house. They color my world and complete my life!

4. Strength and Motivation 💪
Some days were crazy and overwhelmed, but whenever I see their sweet smiles and happy faces, all the stress and exhaustions just disappear!

 

My children give me strength, courage and motivation to tackle the challenges in life. No matter what the situation is, I Will Prevail and I Never Quit! I want to be an example for my children to build a strong and assertive attitude to pursue their dreams and aspirations.

5. Free Unlimited Cuddles and Kisses 💋
Being cuddled and kissed is one of the best feeling in the world! My heart is full when my kids give me the biggest hugs! Their warm cuddles and sweet kisses are the best remedies on those long, hectic days.

              

6. Sweet and Cute Surprises 💝

I love children. I can't help it when they are so adorable, their innocent expressions, giggles and body movements are way too cute! I still remember my son love singing and doing the Barney dance when he was a toddler, it still makes me smile when I watched the old video clips. Ahh.. my daughter made me some snacks with a note the other day...These sweet little surprises warms my heart and made my day!

   

                 

7. Family Bonding 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

I enjoy spending time with my kids doing random activities. We love playground trips, watching cartoons, kite-flying, snuggle times and eating ice-creams together...and when my children dozed off in my arms, it feels blissful and comforting. These are the moments I live for..Priceless!

8. My Junior Versions 👦👧

They say my kids have my eyes and smiles, like a "Mini Mandy"😄 Yeah, I see similar personality but best of all, they both love Music and Art, just like their Mommy! It must be my creative genes, Daddy is so 'jealous'..Haha!😆

9. Gratitude and Appreciation🥰
I never knew how challenging and demanding Motherhood is, until I became a mother. I could relate and fully understand why my mom is always so anxious and tired...

All her nags make sense to me now. I have so much gratitude, admiration, respect for her strength and everything she has done for the family. Thanks Momma! 

10. Duties and Responsibility 👸
Motherhood is messy and exhausting! There are sleepless nights, endless cleanings, meltdowns, tears, worries and heartaches. At times, my kids made me really mad, frustrated and emotional, but no matter how tired I am and how despair I feel...I will do my best, I have no regrets and I wouldn't trade anything for Motherhood, it's one of the best gifts in life!

I believe as a Mother, it's my duty, responsibility and a promise to my children that I will always be there to support, protect and love them. They can always count on Mommy!😊

                   

 A Mother's Love Is Instinctual, Unconditional and Infinity...  Appreciate The Beauty Of New Life and Celebrate The Joy Of Motherhood!🌷

 

                       

                                      

To all the amazing & beautiful Moms out there..Have a lovely Mother's Day Weekend!  💗💐

The Myths Of Motherhood ⚠️

Ok mama! I'm sure we've all heard some myths of motherhood.

I remember when I became a mother. Friends, relatives and even random strangers will offer some interesting information about motherhood; the classic myths, the old wives tales but sadly, social phenomenon can sometimes do more harm than help and that makes motherhood a lot harder than it is. 

Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love being a mom and I'm thankful to have 2 lovely children but the struggle is real! From conception, pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding and parenting...The different stages of motherhood brings different emotions of excitement, fear, joy and many overwhelming experiences. 

The journey of motherhood is challenging but it's definitely worth it! However, many misinformation and misconceptions can often caused moms to get judged brutally and unfairly, these myths impact many moms that made them feel bad, guilty and shamed. 

Here are some myths that I have heard, in my journey of motherhood...

Myth #1 : "Breastfeeding help you lose weight..."

Well, I heard this one all the time but too bad it didn't work for me!Lol. I breastfeed for about 15months for my firstborn and the truth is (*at least in my personal experience) I get super hungry after I breastfeed many times a day and I actually eat more, I don't see a significant drop on the scale so this one is busted! (*for me)

Myth #2 : "Breastfeeding is a natural thing!" 

We all know "Breast Is Best" and I fully support breastfeeding campaigns and giving our babies the best nutrients, but sometimes it's not always easy for new mothers. Breastfeeding is a process that requires patience, determination and proper techniques.

Personally, I love the bonding and the skin-to-skin contact when I nurse my baby but breastfeeding can be uncomfortable, exhausting and inconvenience especially when you are in public places and there is no nursing room nearby. It can be quite embarrassing when the milk leaks, imagine walking around with a soaked blouse, oh gosh! Nonetheless, my breastfeeding journey has been a memorable experience but I don't miss it! 😅

I strongly believe every mom wants the best for their child so whether you breastfeed for a month, for a year or even longer, it doesn't make you less or more of a mother. 

I see many new moms struggling with breastfeeding, feeling immense shame for poor lactation and blaming themselves for not providing enough breast milk. Please don't be too hard on yourself, mummies! Not all moms have a milk supply of a fountain. Breastfeed as long as you can and it's OK to stop when you need to. 

Myth #3 : "A mom should dress like a mom." 

This is one hilarious remark! I mean seriously, is there actually a mom's 'outfit'? Ok, I get the point but in my opinion, I feel that every mom should allow to dress whatever that makes them feel beautiful, comfortable and confident. There is nothing wrong if the mom wants to wear the mini skirt or that bikini, etc...The way we dress has nothing to do with the status of motherhood.  

Myth #4 : "You are the mom, you should fix the problems!"

We often see people pointing fingers and start blaming the poor mother when the child misbehaved. People are too quick to judge without a clue what exactly happened. Hang on! Moms are not problem solvers, we are only humans. Be kind to mothers, we are learning, we trying very hard everyday, we get tired and we made mistakes too. Be more supportive and encouraging instead of mom-shaming. 

Myth #5 : "Csection isn't a real birth..." 

The controversy of Cesarean vs Natural Birth is totally pointless. What matters most is the safety of the baby and the mother. 

I had Csect twice, probably the most nerve-wrecking ordeal of my life when the gynecologist told me I had to go for an emergency c-section when the dilation was slow. I was scared and didn't know what to expect but I didn't care about the procedure and how long the recovery would takes, all I wanted was to bring my baby out safely. 

Not all labors are fast and smooth, some are long and traumatic. The birthing methods should never define the labor of love and motherhood. All births are amazing, it doesn't matter how it happens, both takes much courage and strength.💪😎

Myth #6 : "You will enjoy being a mom every day!" 

As much as I love my kids and they are my world, but there are some days I wish I can take a day off, just relax, do my own stuff and hang out with my besties. Kids can sometimes get you so annoyed and stressed-out with their constant whining and tantrums. We all have bad days, mummies need a little break and some space too. 

Myth #7 : "Asking for help is a sign of weakness..."

No, surely not! Mothers are multi-taskers and they play many roles. It is not humanly possible to manage everything alone! We all need help from time to time, so don't feel weak to ask for help, it's better to get some help than dealing with all the meltdowns that could affect your emotions and mental well-being.

As mothers, we need to take care of ourselves first in order to take care of the children and our family. Don't be afraid to reach out for some support and assistance. 

The judgement from society can be unjustified and cruel, we need to detach the myths of motherhood from reality, besides, there is no fixed formula for motherhood. Every child and every situation is different, do not let negative beliefs and stereotype criticism affect your role as a mother. Do what is best for your children and the family! 😉

"A mother's love is instinctual, unconditional and forever..."

What are some interesting myths you heard, share with me and comment below.

Fun Things To Do At Home 💡

An outbreak sucks! 😷

Since early this year, the world is dealing with a major health crisis and I know it's been a very stressful time for everyone.

The Covid-19 pandemic has caused a lot of stress, fear, anxiety everywhere, it also caused many destruction and inconvenience in our daily lives. 

Some countries are lockdown, schools are closed, we see panic buying and social distancing etc...With so much tensions around, people are staying indoors now, outings and travel plans are not encouraged. Mass/group activities and social events are either cancelled or suspended and the next thing you find yourself 'grounded' at home and nowhere to go!

I'm outdoorsy, so it's kinda miserable to be stucked at home all weekends.(I miss playing Basketball and Jamming with my UkerManics) but looking at the current situation, it make sense to stay at home and avoid crowded places as a precaution.

Though the Covid-19 has put humanity to a big challenge, but looking on the bright side, it may be a great opportunity to improve relationships and strengthen family bonds.

Here's a list of fun things for you and your family to beat boredom.

Fun Things To Do At Home :

Play Board Games

Ok Mummies and Daddies, it's time to put away your phones/laptops and get on the floor to play some games with the kids. I love board games, it's fun, entertaining and it reminds me of my childhood, "Who's turn to roll the dice, now?"

Declutter The House
With the nasty virus out there, it's good to keep the house clean and tidy everyday! I have been doing a lot of spring cleaning this week. You can clean up the refrigerator, kitchen cabinets, reorganize books/toys shelves, changing the bedsheets/curtains, cleaning out the closets and donate some unwanted stuff to the charity or the garang guni.

Baking /Cooking Time

Get the little helpers to bake some cookies, muffins, making sushi rolls, homemade pizza or simply trying out new recipes.

Art & Craft

You can do simple DIY projects with the kids. It's so cool to make your own jewelry & keychains as gifts.

Read Books or Magazines

Reading is a great pastime but I prefer magazines though.lol

Take A Bubble Bath or A Power Nap

It's OK to relax & recharge...and a glass of wine shouldn't harm. Cheers!

Netflix and Chill

Let's not forget the beloved spouse. Couple time is very important in every relationship. Dim the lights please! 😄

Write A Song or A Poem

Dedicate your work to a friend or to someone special. 

Play An Instrument

Playing the Ukulele everyday lighten up my mood. You can practise your piano, guitar or drums, etc.. just enjoy and have fun!

Call Your Bffs

Instead of texting and chatting on the phone. Try FaceTime or video chats but do avoid gossips and spreading rumours. (Positive vibes ok?) 

Family Karaoke Time

Singing out loud can reduce stress. Get the kids to sing their favorite Disney songs and parents can sing along too.

Movie Nights

Watch your favorite movies together as a family. Comedies, horrors, animation, korean drama whatever...but don't forget the chips and popcorn!!! 

Home Workout

If you can't hit the gym for now. Try indoor exercise, like skipping, hula hoop or sit ups, etc..you can still have a good sweat, even at home.

Dance

If you feel like dancing, why not practice your favorite K-pop dance moves? (chumchu ja) Keep grooving!

Home Manicure/Pedicure

Try different colors and designs on your nails or try out a new beauty face mask. Pamper yourself because you deserve it!

Listen To Favorite Music

Music is a great therapy! Put on your headphones and feel the beats...

Indoor Gardening

If you love plants, you can grow some herbs and build a mini home garden.

Online Shopping

I'm an active online shopper! I love online shopping because it save time and it's so convenient! I'm glad I can get almost everything I need, without stepping out of the house. So ladies, go get that dress and the stiletto!

Spend Time With Your Pets

While bonding with family is important but don't forget to cuddle your pets and give them some attentions. Pets are family too.

For those who are serving the LOA (Leave Of Absence)/SHN (Stay-Home-Notice) for 2weeks Home Quarantine/Self-Isolation etc... Please hang in there, do your part and stay at home. Keep your spirits up and try to keep yourself occupied at home, the 2 weeks quarantine order will soon pass... 

It's perfectly normal to panic, feel worried and scared during such crisis but we have to remind ourselves to remain calm, be prepared and stay positive during this difficult time. I believe if everyone stand hand in hand, we can overcome this together and.......
Storms Don't Last Forever!

Let's all be social responsible, practice good hygiene and stay united always...Peace! 💗 #SGUnited