Practical Ways To Boost Self-Confidence

Living in a surreal and competitive world today, we are challenged to cope with emotions, work ethics and tackle different situations. Good interpersonal skills and self-confidence can enrich work performance, social equity and welcome doors of opportunity. Self-confidence is trusting your abilities to handle obstacles and resolve problems in a productive manner.

However, most people struggle some form of insecurities in relationships, financial, body image, social anxiety from time to time and feel withdrawn from life temporarily, this is perfectly normal, since it is not humanly possible to feel positive and be confident 24/7. Self-confidence isn't an overnight process, but the good news is, we can cultivate and master this skill. There are several ways to build self-confidence that we can practice in our daily life.

Speaking from an introvert whom I used to be in my teens. Self-confidence can take years to develop, but through life experience, adversity and major breakthroughs, the transition has evaluate my strength, knowledge and confidence today, so allow me to share some humble tips and advice from *my personal experience.

Here are some practical ways to boost Self-Confidence...(You're welcome!😉)

Smile
A friendly smile is the best ice-breaker for any social events/activities and meeting new people. Smiles are pleasing and captivating, it makes a person appear warm, lovable and approachable. A genuine smile never goes wrong! You may even attract secret admirers.lol😄

Maintain Eye Contact
Keep your eyes on the person as you speak, it's a sign of confidence and showing interest, but if you feel awkward and uncomfortable to look deep into their eyes. (*Try looking at the nose or the center region of the face) Avoid fidgeting too much, looking away or glancing your phone. Your body language reflects your confidence.

                    

Speak Clearly and Concisely
Speak with a bright tone and a normal speed. Don't mumble the words or speaking too fast and too soft. Be diplomatic in a conversation and speak tactfully with respect. That way, people are more likely to listen and pay attention to your speech.

Keep Your Word 

If you made a promise or a mutual agreement, be responsible and get things done in order. When we uphold our words, we show trust, respect, reliability and commitments. Confidence is often built on accomplishments.

                   

Do The Right Thing
I value good morals and justice. At times, you must speak up, be seen, be heard and stand up for yourself when there is a problem or something is wrong. Stand firmly on what you believe and act with integrity. Do what is right, not what is easy!

                         

Dress Up and Be Well-Groomed
The right outfits, designs, style and colors can enhance your appearance and boost self-confidence. You don't need to dress like a model or have the perfect body to look cool! The key is to dress smart, comfortably and appropriately. Make some efforts to groom yourself, take care of your skin, hair and wear some light make-ups, it will make you look more radiant and refreshed. When you look good, you definitely feel great!🥰

Identify Your Strengths
Acknowledge your achievements and focus on your strengths. Everyone has some special skills and talents, it could be playing music, singing, writing, cooking/baking, painting, sports etc...If you are passionate and good at something, improvise the skills to develop creativity and innovations.

Self-Improvement and Feed More Knowledge

Read everyday, about the world, the economy and upgrade yourself. The world is moving so fast with ultra-modern technologies and new projections for the future. An intelligent mind is outstanding, it offers constructive ideas and insightful information. You will feel much confident when you are well-informed and knowledgeable.

Self-Acceptance and Know Your Worth

Learn to accept who you are and love yourself! No one is perfect but don't settle for less than you deserve! I firmly believe everyone is unique in their own ways, so never compare yourself to others. Confidence Has No Competition! We all have different perspectives, standards and priorities. Don't live by other's opinions, criticisms and validations. Live your life in your own terms and pursue what matters most. Strive for success, happiness and achieve your aspirations.

                 

Strong Conversational Skill
Good communication is a powerful tool in all aspects of life. Personally, I do NOT encourage any type of silent treatment or ghosting,etc...It's toxic, boorish, incompetent and unprofessional in my honest opinion. Never run away from problems, be brave to face it! Silence and avoidance will never resolve anything and in fact, it cause more misunderstanding and confusions. Be mature and open to accept feedback and suggestions.

                      

Unfortunately, most people don't listen to understand, they listen with the intent to reply. Learn to express your thoughts, emotions calmly and listen without judging. A low-esteem, poor communicator will avoid any discussions and clarity, while a confident speaker initiate a conversation to work things out and resolve conflicts/disputes. The way we react and handle various situations display the level of confidence.                    

Indeed, self-confidence is one of the most important traits to success, along with a strong mentality and positive attitude towards life...Be Confident NOT Arrogant! :)

Remember, it doesn't matter what professions, age, gender and ethnicity, everyone can learn to be more confident at any phrase to embrace self-growth, intellectual qualities and massive transformations!👍

"Self-Confidence is attractive and it's the most beautiful outfit...Wear it and own it!" 😎

✅ Self-Care Tips For Moms

Ok Mommies, now that the kids are back to school, you deserve some 'me-time' to relax and revitalize! Parenting is a lot of hard work, commitments, responsibilities and the list goes on...

This year, I can finally have more time for myself when both my kids are in the same school. For parents who have a Jubilee baby (SG50), I'm sure you were feeling anxious and excited for their first day in primary school. (I took lots of photos & videos on that special day!😊) My daughter is adapting well and make many new friends, I'm glad she didn't cry and she enjoy going to school with her elder brother.

Having the extra hours to myself is a luxury of freedom that I've been waiting for so long...Well, if you have a helper/nanny, grandparents, in-laws or any relatives who can help you out with the little ones, (lucky you!) you probably won't resonate my excitement, but for many moms like myself who are literally the sole caregiver for our kids with no helper, no in-laws/guardians and a hubby who works long hours/oversea etc..(I feel you and I'm so proud of you..Well done, Mommies!) You gotta' give yourself credits for the versatility and multi-tasking! Nonetheless, all mothers deserve the recognition for the unconditional love and sacrifices for the family.👍

The lunar new year festive is the busiest time for moms and the current outbreak narrative is intoxicating and disheartening. It greatly affect our emotions and morale, so it's important that we practice daily self-care to maintain healthy physical & mental well-being.

Here are some Self-Care Tips / Ideas and my personal advice for busy Moms :

1. Be Organised. (Plan Your Time)

It's never easy balancing work and family life, but with proper time management and good habits, you can get the jobs done on schedule.

Prioritize the important/urgent tasks and set a daily/weekly routine for work, kids, couple time, family bonding, house chores, etc..A routine will guide you to manage the daily tasks productively. 

Don't overwork. The truth is, work will never end! Always spend quality time with your children and your partner at the end of the day.

For me, my children comes first and my family will always be my top priority. I am grateful that I am financially stable, I prefer to work for myself, to have the flexibility to schedule my work at my own pace, doing things that I desire!

2. Take Catnap.(30 - 45 mins)

A power nap during mid-day is a great booster, it allows our body & mind to relax and recharge in a hibernate mode. When we have enough rest, we feel refreshed, more energetic and function better. Happiness is an afternoon nap! 💤

3. Eat Well & Drink More Water. (Enjoy Your Favorite Food)

Food are great pleasure and comfort! Good food brings good mood! When I have a busy schedule with writing assignments and zoom sessions, I hardly have time to sit down comfortably to enjoy a warm, decent meal. It's usually a quick bite or instant food,lol..But now, I can have long, undisturbed lunch, enjoying my flower tea and eating my favorite sushi in my Snoopy pajamas!😅

4. Talk To A Friend. (Call, Text, Facetime!)

Deep conversations/chatting with a good friend is heartwarming..You'll feel much better after you talk it out and release your emotions. Everyone needs a good listener, someone who is supportive, who understand the situations and never judge. If you have a dear friend who is willing to listen to your endless rants with patience and kindness, cherish that special bond & friendship, true friends are blessings!

5. Beauty Routines. (Look Good For Yourself!)

Pamper yourself and be nice to your body. Take a long bath, style up your hair or wear a new outfit! Looking good makes you feel great and confident. In my opinion, fashion and grooming shouldn't stop when you become a mother and every mom can look her best! "Mommy, when is the last time you paint your nails? do your make-up? and visit the spa/salons?" Maybe it's time to indulge and shower yourself some tender loving care. 😘

6. Listen To Music.(Sing, Dance, TikTok!)

Music is the best therapy! It creates a fun and lively ambiance. Whenever I feel under the weather, I would sing out loud, make random Tiktok videos, play my Ukulele / Guitar and it makes me feel better instantly. Like a magic pill, music never fails to brighten up my day! 🌞

       

I firmly believe that Music has the power to inspire, to heal and to connect our deep emotions. Through many tough times and struggles as a mother, music is always there for me and it's been a huge part of my life now..I guess you can't go wrong with music! 😎

7. Stay Calm and Control Your Emotions. (Protect Your Peace!)

Random topics, news, events and people may trigger some tensions and conflicts. Keep your cool and chill! Be wise and walk away from bad vibes and drama. Be selective, don't fight battles that don't matter! Not everything requires your reaction and attention. Sometimes, PEACE is better than being right!

It's Okay To Not Be Okay...

Motherhood is exhausting, demanding and a relentless journey, some days are intense and insane! 

But it's normal to experience negative emotions, frustrations, disappointments and meltdowns... but remember, DO NOT trap yourself in a 'mental prison'. Divert your thoughts, visions and focus on the positivity in every situation. The bad days will pass! 

    

Listen to your body and don't be too hard on yourself. Don't feel guilty if you can't do everything in a day, it's never selfish to take a break and rest...You don't need to be a Wonder Woman to save the world! We are only humans, it's OK to take one step at a time.

You are in charge of your own happiness! Self-care is much needed in our drastic lifestyle today, it is imperative that mothers need to replenish physical & emotional energy in order to provide the best care for the family. 

            

Be kind to yourself and take time to do what makes you happy. Make Self-care a priority every day! 🥰

"Live Well, Laugh Often, Love Much!"❤

What's your daily self-care tips? Share with me and comment below! 😉

(*Disclaimer : The information provided on this blog is based on personal experience and for reference purposes. No medical advice intended. Please consult your local healthcare physicians for diagnosis and medical treatments - Mommywarrior77)

💡Effective Ways To Stay Motivated

The past 2 years have been a bumpy ride for humanity and the pandemic has put an invasive test on mental health and resilience.

"So how do we stay motivated with the uncertainty and new challenges ahead?"

I get asked this question recently...I was invited to a few private zoom meetings/interviews and discussions by corporate organisations, to share some insightful thoughts on Parenting, Family Life, Mental Wellness, Education and Self-Improvement etc.. I am honored to share my humble advice on my blog and hope these information could evaluate new ideas and broaden the perspectives on self-motivation.

Well, it is never easy to stay motivated every day, we all experience some struggles and stress in our daily life, therefore, it's important to practice self-discipline to control your emotions, thoughts and actions. Mastering self-motivation is a powerful skill that can help you manage your mental well-being, tackle the challenges and overcome obstacles.

                     

The truth is, no one is born strong..It take years of experience, lessons, mistakes, adversity to build up strength, courage and wisdom. Every setback is an opportunity to learn and grow.

For instance, I would never imagine myself giving motivation advice/speech and conduct music classes. I remember I used to be that shy and introvert girl back in school, but people do change over the years...I am proud of the transformation and the dynamic breakthrough for my achievements with the knowledge and the ability to inspire others.

As a parent and a music mentor, I have to motivate my children and students. I strongly believe in diligence, determination, perseverance and a positive attitude.👍

                            

                 

Personally, I can accept failure, everyone fails at something, but I will not accept defeated without trying and putting the best efforts, but that's just me! 😎 No matter what you do and whatever dreams/goals you pursue, without motivation, no one can progress or achieve anything.

 

Here are my candid advice and thoughts to stay motivated, it has redirect me to stay on track whenever I am stuck in an impassive stage.

Tips To Stay Motivated :

 

1. Believe In Yourself (Be Your Own Hero!)

You probably see this quote everywhere in many motivational books and yes! it is indeed the vital aspect to success. Believing in yourself is knowing your worth, your strength and your power to change your life for better. Chase your dreams! Live life with a passion and purpose!

 

Don't rely on anyone to support or save you (sometimes you may never get any help). People come and go, not everyone will be there for you and stick around! Be your own hero, you are in charge of your life, learn to pull yourself up and push yourself forward. Trust and believe that you are capable to achieve great things. You become what you believe!

                

 

2. Invest In Yourself.(Knowledge Is Power!)

Never stop learning. You are never too old to learn more. It's all about the right attitude and the desire to improve. Be open to new ideas and explore new things. A great way for self-improvement is to read more books. Information feed intelligence and the best thing about knowledge is no one can take away from you. Knowledge & skills open the door to new opportunities, achievements, success and wealth. "The More You Learn, The More You Earn!"

             

3. Compliment Yourself.(Self-Worth)

Start each day with positive self-talk. Don't wait for someone to praise your hair, your outfit, your style...You can't please the world and you don't need validations from anyone. Celebrate small victory, achievements and reward yourself! This will boost your self-confidence and help you stay focused on your goals.

 

             

 

4. Associate With Successful People. (Listen To The Right Advice)

We meet different people in life, some people will inspire you and some will drain you. Be selective and choose your circle wisely. Unfortunately, not everyone offer sensible advice and conducive solutions.

You need to analyse your own situations and do what works the best for you, because at the end of the day, you are the one who will face the challenges and deal with the consequences for your decisions.

So be careful with random advice from temporary people. Time is precious, a wrong decision will delay the transition of success and the risk of wasted effort with no promising outcomes. Bad advice are destructive that can cause self-doubts, confusions and pessimism.

                                    

Stay away from negative and toxic people. A bad attitude will never produce positive results. Surround yourself with like-minded people with positive energy, realistic goals and visions. A good mentor will encourage you to explore your full potentials and guide you to success!

5. Don't Give Up (Keep Trying)

Failure is part of life. All successful people experience some hiccups at some point. Don't feel discouraged if you haven't reach your goals yet. Take a break if you are tired, but don't quit! Remember, you can always Restart, Rebuild and Re-adjust. Be patient but consistent, success isn't an overnight process and great things take time. Nothing is over if you don't give up! 

 

              

"Even if you are not ready for the day, it cannot always be night..."

As we countdown to the new year...Set new goals, make a resolution to cultivate a strong and positive mentality. Embrace your strength and empower self-motivation to achieve your dreams & aspirations!

Christmas is just around the corner and I love Christmas time! It's a joyful season of giving and sharing! So here's wishing everyone a magical, blissful holiday season and a happy, prosperous 2022! Have fun and stay safe! 😉

                 

I hope you learn something useful today and if you do, pass it on...

If you need more tips and advice,

Write to me : mommy.warrior77@gmail.com