10 Things What Women Really Want🌹

"A woman's heart is a deep ocean of secrets..."

Remember this famous quote from the movie, Titanic? (I've watched it for at least 5times.lol)

So the notion of the quote may be true...but getting to know women is not as hard as you think, but it is indeed important to understand what women really want instead of guessing what's on her mind, that can save you a lot of rejections, heartaches, cold wars and unhappy relationships.

Men often think women are hard to please, without a clue what's going on...How many times we heard the guys complaining to their buddies, "I don't know what's wrong with my girlfriend?", "I don't know what my wife wants from me?" 

Okay dudes! It's pretty simple. Your partner wants time, she wants your attention and she wants you! 😉

We understand men are not mind readers and no one have time for mind games anyway, we get it!  However, we can't always tell men what to do and what we want from them, after all, being demanding and controlling can causes red flags too.

But there are ways to tell what a woman wants, from her body language, her gestures, eye contacts and the tone of her voice. If you take some efforts to understand women better, you'll soon unlock the 'secrets' and even enhance the relationship.

Whether you are married, in a relationship or just started dating, here are some information and tips to help you understand what women really wants. (Dear men/husbands, please take some time to read this.😁) 

1. Communication

Proper communication is the key ingredient in every long-lasting, healthy relationship. Talk often, share your dreams and goals. Listen without judging and don't interrupt even when you don't agree with her views and beliefs. The objective of good communication is not to debate or to create a fight, but an interaction to listen and understand your partner better.

2. Respect

No relationship can survive without respect. Respect comes in many forms. Always treat a woman right! No one likes to be disrespected and mistreated in an abusive relationship. If you treat her like a Queen, she will treat you like a King! 👑

3. Saying (I Love You)

It doesn't matter how long you've been married or how long you have been together. The 3 magic words never gets old. I know some guys are too shy to express themselves and feel mushy to say those words out loud, but you can look into her eyes and whisper in her ears. Your partner love hearing those words but make sure you say it sincerely from your heart.

4. Be True and Faithful

No woman wants a player or a heart-breaker! It's never cool to toy with feelings, if you can't commit in a serious relationship and be true to her, you need to back off and let her go.

5. Affection (Hugs, cuddles & kisses)

Women wants quality couple time, just the two of you. In my opinion, there is no such thing as too much cuddles and kisses in a relationship. Physical intimacy is a couple bond, a connection with your partner and affection strengthens relationship. Give her the attention she needs. Everyone loves to feel needed and wanted.

6. Understanding and Supportive

We all have bad days or feeling under the weather sometimes. Give her some space, offer some comforts and listening ears instead of blaming her for being moody. Show her that you love and care for her. Women want men to be there for her and to work things out together. Relationship is a teamwork and it takes two to tango.

7. Protection and Sense of Security

Every woman loves a man who protects her and keep her safe, knowing that you will always have her back makes her feel loved, valued and cherished.  

8. Holding Hands

I can't speak for all the women on this one but I personally love holding hands, it makes me feel warm and comforting. Awww...how lovey-dovey when I see couples holding hands on the street or at the beach...Take my hand, honey! 👫

9. Surprises

Guys, we don't need diamonds, flowers, expensive gifts or fancy dinners to make us happy. Sweet surprises can be anything like buying a snack/dessert that she is craving for, a cute plushie that she like or breakfast in bed etc...it's the effort and sincerity that matters!

10. Compliments and Praises

Do you remember when is the last time you praise your partner? The fact is, you don't need to be a sweet talker and find the perfect words to say something nice. If your partner look gorgeous in that dress, cooks a nice meal or does something extra special for you. Thank her and let her know you appreciate it. Who doesn't love some compliments, right? Never take anything and anyone for granted!

There you go! I hope this information help but I'm sure there are more to add to the list. I am not a dating/relationship expert here, but I believe these are the top list that what women want from their partner in a serious and committed relationship.

So ladies, what do you think? Share with me and comment below if I miss out anything and share this blog with your friends if you love the tips.😎

12 Signs That A Man Loves You 💘

Do you sometimes wonder?... Is the guy that you are dating really loves you? You could try plucking petals to get an answer,(lol) but the best way to know is to observe.


Well, I am not an expert in giving relationship/dating advice but based on my personal experience and observations, there are obvious signs that a guy is deeply in love with you.

Most men aren't good at expressing their romantic feelings to their partner, however, actions and behaviors can tell how much they love you. Don't just fall for sweet talks, lovebirds! Words are only plain texts unless they are proven! After all, actions speak louder than words. Remember...Love is not what you say, love is what you do! 😘

So here are some undeniable signs that a guy is really into you...💕


1) He wants you to be happy.
He cares about your happiness and emotions. When you are sad, he tries different ways to cheer you up, to make you smile again.


2) He is always there for you.
Anytime you need him, he gets to you the fastest he can, to be your support, a listener, he offer comfort and a shoulder to lean on.

3) He cooks for you.
Nothing is sweeter than a man who cooks for his love. Even a simple sandwich or a bowl of soup can taste the sweetest! I love a man who cooks! Hey, who doesn't like to be fed with love? 😁

4) He tries to please you.
Whether he is learning a new language or singing your favorite love songs just to make you happy. That really shows how special you are to him, because "You Are The Reason"🎶

5) He thinks about you all the time.
You are always on his mind and he misses you every day.  He wants to talk to you and listen to your voice. He asks about your day, reminds you to eat your meals. He sends you sweet love notes and cute texts the first thing in the morning when he wakes up.


6) He takes good care of you.
When you are unwell, he accompanies you to the clinic, he checks on you every few hours, making sure that you will take the medication on time and have enough rest, etc...


7) He compliments you.
He praises and celebrates your success and achievements. He compliments about your personality, your strength and natural beauty. Even when you don't wear any make-up, he still finds you beautiful, attractive and he love the way you are! He makes you feel good and confident about yourself.


8) He makes you a priority.

I believe when someone truly cares for you, they will find time! Even if it's only a few hours to be together for a dinner or a stroll at the beach, he is happy to spend time with you.


9) He doesn't give up the relationship easily.
It is common to have disagreements and arguments in any relationship. If a guy truly loves you, he will find solutions to fix the problems and work things out together to keep the relationship going.


10) He is happy and excited to see you.
He keeps smiling  every time when he meets you, he looks into your eyes and gives you full attention. He keep you close, he love holding your hands, making you feel warm and comfortable.


11) He protects you.
This is the most obvious sign when a man loves you, he is willing to be your shield in any danger. Like a knight in shining armor, he won't let anyone hurt you. He will do his best to make you feel secure and keep you safe always.


12) He shares his dreams, tells his family and friends about you.
When a guy introduces you to his family, it is a sign that he is serious about you and he wants you to be part of the family. He wants you to be in his life and to build a future together. 

Falling in love is easy but staying in love requires a lot of hard work and patience because relationships can be confusing and tricky at times...


People say love is blind (they are probably right!) Nonetheless, I do believe true love exists and if you ever find a man who does most of the things listed here, don't lose that gem! He's definitely a keeper!👍

"Happiness is to love and be loved..."

                         

Why I Love Blogging...📝

Growing up as a child, I was a quiet and introvert girl who would spend hours to write a journal. I started writing a diary when I was 10 when my Mum gave me my first diary on my Birthday. 

As I grow older, I continue to write my diary as often as I could. I would pen down my thoughts, emotions, important events and special moments of my life so that I could recall all these memories when I grow old. Writing a diary has been a routine for me ever since. 

When I started my blogging journey, people would tell me, "Blogging is a waste of time! Nobody actually has time to read! It's hard to survive in this industry..", etc.. Perhaps they are right but that wasn't a concern to me because once I set myself to do something, nothing can change my mind and a very special incident reinforced my passion about blogging.

One evening, while I was checking my emails, I received a thank you note from someone who was not in my contact list and it wrote.. "You saved my life...Thank you! " At first I thought that might be spam because I couldn't recall any incident that relates to the message. 

As I read on...I understand from the sender 'R' who was dealing with depression, wanted to give up life. Thankfully, 'R' dropped that idea after reading my blogs. Long story short, I am really glad that 'R' made the right choice to live and found the strength to face the challenges in life.  

I never thought my blog could save someone's life but I'm glad it did. Frankly, I did felt like a 'Hero' at that moment and it was a huge boost that motivates me to continue blogging till now. I love what I do, I feel good to express myself and reaching out to people through blogging and even if I have to sacrifice my beauty sleep,lol..I still think it's worth it! Honestly, I don't really know who and how many people actually read my blogs but even if only one person benefits from the contents of my blog and have changed his/her life positively, I will never stop blogging! 

Life isn't a bed of roses, there will be hurdles and setbacks along the way, sometimes all you need is some words of encouragement, motivations to change your thoughts and sort things out. It's no doubt that words create a powerful impact! Blogging has emboldened me to be more confident and outspoken, it also helped broaden my horizon and my perspectives in life. 

I don't have a fancy layout blog page, or cool freebies/giveaways etc..I prefer simplicity. Less is more to me and my main objective for blogging is to share my personal experience, sensible advise and hope the contents of my blog could inspire and motivate the readers. That to me is much more meaningful and rewarding as a Blogger. 


I believe every Blogger is unique. We all have different writing styles, beliefs, perspectives, goals & experiences to share to the world. In my opinion, it doesn't matter if you are a newbie or a veteran blogger, so long as you blog with a sincere heart to inspire and motivate others in your own style, that is the right attitude and the true beauty of blogging.


Singapore Top 30 Lifestyle Bloggers

Mommywarrior77 is honored to be featured as Singapore Top 30 Lifestyle Blogger by Feedspot. I am grateful for the recognition and express my heartfelt appreciation to the diligence team of Feedspot. Thank you and much love! 😊


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Have You Been Naughty Or Nice? 😈😇

As the bus drove by along Orchard Road...I glanced through the window looking at the busy streets filled with happy shoppers, beautiful lightings and fancy decorations...Yay! It's Christmas!!! My favorite time of the year...🎄🎅❤️

Every December, I would make my New Year resolutions and do a quick recap on the whole year events.

How have 2018 been 
for you? Have you been Naughty or Nice? Lol.😀

Honestly, I would say I've been a bit of both but mostly nice.😁 If you know me well enough, you know I'm always friendly, nice and warm to people who are genuine, kind and helpful. However, if anyone try to hurt or mess with my kids and family, I can be quite nasty that they can never imagine! So DON'T mess with the Mama Bear..Afterall, it's a maternal instinct for any mother to protect her children..Other than that, I'm as cool as a cucumber. LOL!

2018 has been another busy and eventful year for me..Mostly involving with my kids events, random contests, school life, some oversea trips, lots of fun parties/celebrations and gatherings with good friends. 

I'm very proud of my son who achieved an Integrity Award from his school. He scored 95% for moral education as well.(Welldone, baby!) The form teachers feedback about his good conducts and school grades. My daughter will be starting Pre-school in Jan 2019. She is super excited about school life, she carries her new school bag everyday, walking around the house, packing the crayons and color pencils into her bag.😁

My online business is doing pretty well this year and I'm grateful for the 100% positive feedback from my regular and new customers. Thank you all so much for the support. I've won some prizes from random lucky draws and costume contests earlier, very thankful to Lady Luck for being so kind and generous to me in the recent months! 😍🙏

I also made a couple of new friends and interesting people early this year that inspired me on the perspective of life.👍


As I recalled some unhappy past events, I realized that family is STILL the Most important thing in the world.. No amount of money can ever buy family love, loyalty and unity.

Indeed..What is happiness when you are rich with no family and true friends around you? No thanks! I wouldn't want to be rich but lonely! My family will always be my top priority. Nothing can replace them! I will always love and protect my family. Period!

I've also learned to keep a distance from the black sheeps and the troublemakers who caused some dramas earlier! It is so true that life is more peaceful when you stay away from negativeness and toxic people. I see a huge difference since...

Christmas is a season of giving, hope, joy and a wonderful time to spend with your family and love ones. I'm glad I've done my new year resolution and still have a little spare time to write a short blog today and do a shout-out here to all my readers, to wrap up 2018.


I hope 2019 bring more joy, laughters and blessings to everyone! Always treasure your family! Family bonding is very important if you want a happy home. Make time for them, organize family outings, have movie nights or do some sports together. Your work and money can wait! 😉

True happiness and wealth in life are things that money can't buy. You are truly rich and blessed when you have a family who stick together and always stand by you through good times and bad times. Keep in mind that a family who sticks together, stays together! 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 💗

On this peaceful evening, I would like to wish everyone a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! May the holiday season fill your home with joy, your heart with love and your life with laughter. Have a fun celebration! Don't be in Santa's naughty list, folks! Lol! Do good and be kind always! 😘

For Love & Peace! ♥️✌️


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The Pride Of Motherhood 👩💓

Motherhood.

If you're a Mum, you know the struggle is REAL and the journey of Motherhood isn't always a smooth-sailing ride... I overheard a conversation the other day and I'll share my personal thoughts on Motherhood.

I am sure we have seen and heard many debates on Working Mums (WM) vs Stay-At-Home Mums (SAHM) and the battle never seems to end...

Personally.. I think such debates are pointless and quite silly because at the end of the day, we did it for our kids and the family so what's the purpose of proving which group gets more credits, we aren't earning for brownies or rewards points, are we? lol 😁


In my opinion.. I feel that as mothers, we should help and support one another instead of attacking, shaming and judging. If you are a working mum, it's cool to bring the bacon home, if you are a stay at home mum, that's wonderful to witness every precious milestone of your child each day.

My point is...Respect the roles of both group of Mothers. I have many friends who are working mums and I love them like sisters and as a stay/work at home mum myself, we face many challenges too and not every SAHM live a Tai-Tai (aka rich lady) lifestyle...and yes! I do understand the work stress for working mums as well..My friends complained to me all the time about their work projects,  long hours, frequent meetings and the nasty office politics they deal with everyday but stay at home mums have tons of endless housework and they hardly have any me-time for themselves, they don't get paid for doing everything, they got ZERO welfare, they have to deal with the cruel criticism and unfair judgement from the public as well. 

Indeed..Motherhood is a tough journey for both working mums and stay at home mums but it should NEVER be a competition or humiliation. I really think all mothers (SAHMs and WMs) deserve Equal credits, respect and recognitions in the society.

Just to share...years ago, a single lady in her 40s once asked me..."M, what do you do at home all day? Wow! honestly, I felt really pissed at that moment and I think that was kinda' rude.. I wonder why did she even asked when she already knew what SAHM does! But yes..we don't go to work like the office lady and getting a paycheck every monthly but we are not sitting all day, munching chips and catching Korean dramas.Lol! We are equally busy taking care of the kids everyday, making sure that they are well & fed and running the daily errands. 

It's really sad that people are so shallow and judgmental these days. No offense and pardon me but I wonder how does she feel when someone asked why isn't she married at her age. Ahh.. there you see! Sensitive and tactless questions like this are totally uncalled for and it only tigger tensions and unhappiness so it's best to zip up especially when people can't relate to the situations. 

Well..It's always easy to judge and make senseless remarks on others when they can't relate what Motherhood is all about and a mother's role in the family.. Say for example, if someone who can't cook or doesn't clean up the house, how can they truly understand and relate to the exhaustion from fixing meals for the family and doing the housework everyday?..What about pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding? Hey, not even a dad can relate that..just saying, Lol! So it really does take a mother to understand a mother! Period.

I hate to judge without knowing the truth, but that's me! Besides, it's really none of anyone's business whatever the decisions the mothers made for the family. Every household has different needs and demands. There is no standard formula in motherhood so why is there a need to compare who is better?

Here's a cool video that every mothers / parents should watch. Perhaps many have seen it before and I think it's one of the best motherhood advertisement that I have seen so far that speak a thousand words with a positive punch!👍

Motherhood is messy, crazy, tiring, stressful, exciting, rewarding and this list go on.. The last thing any mother need is someone making hurtful remarks to belittle and attack them. 

The next time you ask such questions..think about how others feel and how YOU feel when someone ask you a sensitive question back, if words that may sound hurtful and unkind..Don't do it! because those words that are spoken can never be erased! It's never cool to go around insulting and mocking mothers or anyone so it's wise to think before you speak. Learn to speak with respect, kindness and intelligence, that way you'll make a friend instead of an enemy.

I have the highest respect for many strong mothers that I've met, both working mums and stay at home mums. At the end of the day, we all play the SAME role of a mother. Please do not feel worthless just because you don't bring money home for the family and don't feel guilty for working during the weekends. You Are Still A Good Mum, Remember that!😎  

Whatever the choice is..be proud of your role as a mother. Keep in mind that we do NOT have to live in the opinions of others. While the battle will still continue I'm sure, but allow me to speak with the pride of a mother. Thank you.😘

*Remark : This blog is specially dedicated to all the amazing mothers / Mommy Warriors for their hard work and sacrifices for the family. Love you Mums! 💕

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Before Saying...I Do! 💏

Not long ago, I was invited to a private group interview on the topic "Successful Marriage". For the record, I have been married for over a decade and counting...(*but I'm not old btw..) 😁😄 I guess I'm qualified to offer my humble advise and thoughts on this very popular discussion.

During the interview, the host asked.....

"What is your best advise for people who are getting married and the newlyweds..."

...and I replied,

In my opinion, a Marriage is much more than just a paper and the marital status. When you decided to marry that special someone, you do not just married to the love of your life, you married to his/her family as well.

Trust me, that is a fact! I believe those who have been married for many years would agree with me, that is why building a successful Marriage isn't easy because there will be many unhappy, tacky situations and new challenges along the way that could involve your spouse's family, eg; siblings, relatives, etc.. that unfortunately may effect your relationship when couples start having disagreements and disputes over family matters.You may have a hard time blending into the family and you will be exhausted playing the Angel all the time when your spouse's family don't even appreciate your efforts in the end, so married life isn't as simple as it looked.  

I am NOT an expert in Marriage advise but I will share my perspective on Marriage / Married Life based on my personal experience for the readers as a general reference.☺

Before you propose and say I do......

1) Never rush to get married! Don't feel pressure to marry because you feel lonely, unhappy being single or your parents keep nagging at you. Marriage Is A Lifetime Commitment. It is better to marry later than married to the wrong person. 

People said, "Love Is Blind". Indeed..lovers can be 'blinded' when they are madly in love, people do get impulsive and married too early and then regret later. So give yourself sufficient time to know the person better and his/her family as well.

2) Avoid staying too near or living together with your in-laws. You can always bring the kids to visit your in-laws every weekly/monthly or as often as you want and it is so convenient to travel around any part of the country. Personally, I would prefer NOT to stay too close or living together with my in-laws because it can cause some inconvenience, unnecessary stress and tensions living under one roof. Besides, I need my privacy! Lol😝

When we talk about in-laws, it doesn't only refer to the Father/Mother-in-law alone, that also include the unmarried sister/brother-in-law who are still living together with the parents. These are the people who may gossip / badmouth you and create many family dramas because they could be jealous and feeling insecure when they see you as a Threat in the family, especially when you are intelligent, vocal and outshine them in many aspects. So if you do have a choice, be wise and distance yourself from those nasty in-laws! They are one of the Biggest deal breaker imo.

3) Always protect your loved ones. Do NOT let anyone bully your spouse and children. If you know your spouse/children is right, speak up and stand by them. Remember, silence isn't always golden! Your spouse deserve all the respect in the family. He/she doesn't have to put up with the nonsense and be treated unfairly. Always Do What Is Right! A strong family is one who stays united.💗👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 

4) Choose your battles. Put down your ego. Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose..Hey, it's no big deal!😎 You don't have to win all the time, there is no medal for winning anyway, Haha!..and Marriage isn't a competition. It is silly to fight over small matters, don't let those minor things effect your Marriage/relationship, it's just not worth it!

 

5) Mutual respect and good communication is extremely important in a healthy, successful Marriage. Without communication and respect, I don't think any Marriage / Relationships can survive in a long run and it may lead to many serious problems later. Make some efforts to communicate daily. Have a heart-to-heart talk with your spouse often. Listen when he/she speak, do not interrupt or judge anything. Do acknowledged that everyone have different emotions on each situations..Be a good listener and be supportive. Praises and compliments never harm.😘👍

6) Keep the Fire burning..it doesn't matter how long you are married. Don't forget to groom yourself, hit the gym or do some sports to keep fit. Put some efforts on your physical appearance and dressings.When you look good, you feel good inside and out, it boost your charm and confidence big time! (*Speaking from my own experience.LOL!😁)

Don't forget couple time.💏 Always make time for your spouse. Romance is very important in a Marriage. Be creative and spontaneous. Why not start dating your wife/husband again? You could get someone you trust to babysit your kids and go out on a date with your spouse. Perhaps a romantic candle-light dinner, midnight movies, supper or evening strolls at the beach under the stars...Who doesn't like sweet surprises, right?😘

Marriage is a teamwork. It takes two to tango.. NEVER take anyone or anything for granted! A happy and successful Marriage need to be nurtured with a lot of hard work, sacrifices, patience, understanding and consistent commitments from both husband and wife.👫

......Whenever I see old loving couples holding hands strolling at the park, my heart melts with warmness and sweetness. They have proven to the world that True Love does exist!...😆😄💕

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