10 Things Not To Post On Social Media⚠️

Social media is a virtual community network that provides great source of information, latest news, trends, entertainments and more...It is a resourceful marketing tool to promote businesses/brands, awareness and connect the world! However, it can be a dangerous place when the contents you share may lead to some nasty situations.

Bloggers like myself, content creators, influencers and online business owners are active on social media, our contents are shared publicly for better engagement and exposure to our audience, that's the nature of the industry. Hence, it can be quite challenging if you are unsure what contents are safe and what might cause red flag.🚩

 

My 3 golden rules are, be mindful, respectful and tactful.

Here are my personal tips and advice on 10 Things Not To Post On Social Media.(*This is solely my personal thoughts and opinions.*) 

 

1. Personal Data
I'm sure most people will not share their personal information but at times, you may overlook the finest details on some pictures that may reveal your home address, ID, car plate and mobile numbers, these information can fall into wrong hands, so remember to check carefully before you post anything online.

2. Family/Children Pictures
Call me a protective mom, (I admit I am, lol!😄) Ah yes..I'm kinda' discreet and I value privacy. For me, I do not share my family/children photos on my social media publicly for safety reasons. I love my 2 sweethearts and take lots of lovely photos/videos with them, but I prefer to share my private collections with family/relatives, closest friends and selective group chats in a private setting. Anyway, you don't need to share everything about your life and you don't have to post it to prove it! It's perfectly fine to stay low key if you wish. You never know who is spying, checking your profiles and saving your photos.

                                                     

3. Sensitive Topics
Personally, I would avoid posting/blogging anything related to Religions, Races and Politicians on social media. These topics are highly sensitive that may trigger unnecessary tensions and provoking debates, so it's wise to stay away at all costs and don't get yourself into trouble! (Nuffsaid!)

4. Adults Contents (18+)

Every social media channels forbid nudity, violence and obscene contents. Indecent posts will be removed, flagged and banned for violating the community guidelines. Avoid sharing such contents that may go viral and could expose to minors.


5. Hateful & Offensive Comments

Everyone has different ideas, perspectives and beliefs. I think it's important to respect everyone equally. Perhaps you might think it's just a joke or a harmless remark, but be mindful that not everyone feel the same.

 

Acknowledge everyone's emotions and treat people the way you like to be treated! We can always agree to disagree or settle the disputes in private but NEVER condone to cyber-bulling, trolling and keyboard warriors. No One Is Perfect! There is nothing cool about bullying, shaming, defamation and being passive aggressive. No one ever look good, making someone look bad!

                   

 

6. Fake News

Everyone makes mistakes. I'm sure many of us are eager to share the latest news with our family and friends but before you hit the send/forward button, make sure the information are updated from reliable sources before you share it on public platforms. You don't want to cause false alarm and anxiety.

 

7. Personal Stories/Events

Do NOT share your break-up stories, family problems, relationships, financial or work issues etc. I hate to say this hunny...but the truth is, very few people actually care, some are just curious and the vast majority can't be bothered! Instead of seeking comfort and support, some may be judging, mocking and gossiping about you. Don't invite negativity and protect your energy!

 

Some things are best to stay private, behind closed doors. Do NOT Overshare! Your problems need real solutions NOT attention! Talk to a trusted friend instead and refrain from sharing too much personal narratives on social media. A private life is a happy life! 🙂  

 

                     

8. Sharing Without Consent

Some documents are strictly private and confidential regardless corporates or individual, it could be personal emails, invoices, legal contracts and proposals that should never be shared with a third party or anyone. In my opinion, this is basic courtesy and integrity. Even if you are not in contact with the person/company/organisations anymore, the documents should still remain Private & Confidential. If you like a private article or specific photos, request for permission to repost on your page/website. Be professional and respectful.

9. Spamming Links
Spams are annoying and hard-selling strategies can be quite turn-off for many. It may project desperation and a poor image. Don't keep tagging popular, big accounts to promote your business unless they are aware and there is a mutual agreement/collaboration to support your product campaigns and business ventures.

10. Moderate Postings

Limit selfies, lavishing lifestyle photos and don't over post your achievements. Some people might feel envious or intimidated... Unfortunately, not everyone will clap for your success! In my personal experience, your daily online activities may unintentionally 'attract' stalkers, haters and flooded DMs.(Always!) It is common for bigger accounts to get hacked, compromised or become victims of phishing. Network does breakdown and internet security systems can fail too. Be Warned!
    

           

       

Don't be overly stressed about getting likes, followers, fame and popularity. I totally understand being competitive but Remember, your REAL Social Life is more important than your Social Media.

Bonus Tips :  

Keep your posts fun, positive, interesting and entertaining. Have some self-discipline on the contents you post and set the amount of time you spend online.

 

Social media addiction can affect greatly on mental health, self-esteem and daily routines. Remember to take a short break and detach from social media if you need to. Don't forget to enjoy some me-time, self-care and spend quality time with your family. Never let social media steal your time or take over your life!

 

Occasionally, you can do some social media detox, to keep a safe and healthy network.

         
 

Whatever you wish to post on social media, make sure you feel good and comfortable sharing the contents. Be authentic & creative!👍

            

Share constructive, useful contents to inspire, motivate and encourage others. The world has enough crisis and critics, we need more compassion, peace and justice! Be kind to one another..."Spread Love, NOT Hate!"

 

Social media is an essential technology in our modern lifestyle, it's wonderful to get information the fastest way and stay connected with friends & family around the world but keep it safe always.

Peace & love! 😎✌

 

                     

Effective Parenting - Mental Wellness For Students 🎓

The recent news triggered some social attention and a major concern for parents. I wonder, "Are the children too stressed in schools?"

Mental health is a complex and a sensitive subject that most people are not comfortable to share and discuss liberally, but it is so important to understand and take control of mental health, as it affects greatly on a person's thoughts, emotions and behaviors.

Like all adults, children have different emotions and bad days too, they could be experiencing prolonged mental stress in school and not aware of the danger of these intense emotions could cause.

We've all been a student before...School isn't always a fun and safe place. A child could be struggling with studies, dealing with bullies, feeling isolated or having low self-esteem etc...They could be having fear, anxiety, depression or having meltdowns and not know where and who they can seek help and support.

Do you still remember when our parents used to nag at us to study hard, get a degree, find a good job and have a successful life... I know as parents, we want the best for our children, especially we are living in a competitive society today, but to the child, it could be a very stressful ordeal to reach our expectations. 

We have to be mindful that life isn't all about getting good grades, every child has different potential. Yes! A degree is a great academic honor...but even if your child didn't get a degree, it doesn't mean that they can't be successful later in life. Remember in the end, The Tortoise Won The Race!🥇

People like Bill Gates, Ralph Lauren and Steve Jobs doesn't have a college degree, are they not rich, famous and successful? Anything Is Possible!👍

 

                                                   

Now don't get me wrong, education is still extremely important as we all need knowledge and skills to achieve our dreams and goals. The world need doctors, lawyers, engineers too, but the point is to believe that our children is capable to do many great things even without the perfect grades.

The truth is, school doesn't teach you everything and life doesn't stop after graduation. The road is long for our children to explore and excel to their full potential.

Here are my personal parenting tips and advice to improve mental well-being for students/children :

What Can Parents Do? 💡🤔

1. Communicate daily

Talk to your children every day no matter how busy you are. 20 - 30 mins is a good start. Put down your phone and give them full attention. Listen patiently and don't interrupt, allow your children to express themselves, the more you communicate, the stronger the bond and you will understand your children much better as they grow. (Your child need more than a mobile device.)

2. Don't Compare Your Child with Anyone

No one likes to be compared. It is a psychological damage to a child's self-esteem and it is hard to reverse. A traumatic childhood and bad memories could stay permanently. Your child may grow up thinking that they are never good enough! Accept their flaws and love them for who they are.

                        

3. Praise Your Child Genuinely (But Don't Overdo)

Compliments made us feel good and appreciated, but be specify and genuine. Instead of saying, "Well done, good job, sweetie!" Tell your child, "Mommy is proud of you for cleaning up your room and helping your sister with her homework, you are a great brother." However, avoid excessive praises as this may cause the child to be arrogant, having a boastful attitude and nobody wants to befriend with snobs!

4. Acknowledge Their Feelings

Everyone reacts to situations differently. Please do NOT judge or shame them for their personal thoughts, but try to understand from different perspectives. Every emotions are valid. 

       

5. Positive Self-Talk & Self-Love

Teach children to believe in themselves, this will encourage them to build up their confidence and independence. Celebrate small victory and be their cheer leader! Let them know it is OK to fail, keep trying but do not quit! Use positive, powerful words and remind them about their strengths, good conducts/personality etc...

       

6. Have Realistic Expectations

Getting straight A's is impressive but don't over-stress the child and penalize them just because they didn't top the class or get the best grades. I think B Is Brilliant too! As long as the child put in their best efforts, we should be proud of them.

7. Be There For Them (Be A Support!)

Everyone needs comfort and support. Do NOT expect young children to behave like independent grown-ups, their young minds are not mature enough to handle all the problems by themselves. Let your children know that they are not alone to face the problems, they can always count on Mommy & Daddy for help and support.

8. Set Good Examples

Children will follow their parents' examples more than their advice. If you want your child to have good morals and behaviors, be a good example, a role model and practice what you preach. Children are constantly watching, observing and learning from the way we speak, react and how we treat others.

           

9. Learn From Mistakes

Every mistakes will teach the children some important lessons. Explain to them the danger and consequences of making bad choices. This will help them to analyse every situations carefully and be responsible for their actions.

10. Teach Children To Protect Themselves

Remind our children that every problem has a solution! Teach them to reach out to parents, teachers, a trusted adult/friend when they need help, but NEVER suffer in silence.

Parenting is a tough and a challenging journey. Time has changed, the classic parenting tactics need to be revised from time to time. Those parenting guide books and all the seminars/workshops you attended are a source for reference, not every answers can be found in books. Parenting is a Hands-On skill and experience, rather than a theoretical knowledge.

In my honest opinion, there is no perfect formula for parenting, the guideline is to do what works the best for your children.

     

Our role as a parent is to protect, guide, discipline our children and help them to become a better person. Whatever your parenting strategies and beliefs are, I am sure at the end of the day, all parents want to raise a strong, confident, healthy child.

Always remember...

Your child's mental health is more important than their grades. A positive mind and a resilient child is much likely to overcome adversity, to achieve great success and happiness in life!🏆

Spread the words...Mental Health Matters! 💚 

"If there is eternity, I would spend an endless lifetime, to keep my children safe under my wings." ❤ ~ Mommywarrior77

👉 Mothers are Angels! 💯😇💖

*** Disclaimer ***

(This blog is written by Mommywarrior77. All information provided are based on my personal experience as a mother with 2 young children. No medical advice intended. Please seek professional support.)

The DO's and DON'Ts During Chinese New Year🧧

Growing up in a traditional Chinese family, the Lunar New Year is the most important festival of the year. 

From spring cleaning, new year shopping, reunion dinner and giving red packets(Ang Pow) etc...These customs are passed down from generation to generation. 

During the 15-days of celebration, there are many taboos and superstitions that many Chinese households still practice these beliefs every Spring festival. The ultimate goal is to welcome abundance of blessings, good fortune and prosperity in the coming year.

Personally, I don't follow everything strictly, but I respect traditions and I believe we should preserve cultural heritage. If it doesn't harm, I'd rather be safe than sorry! 😘

We have heard many traditional customs and beliefs from our parents and grandparents...

Here are the important DO's and DON'Ts during Chinese New Year :

❎ The DON'Ts :

No Housekeeping.

Do not sweep/mop the floor or wash the clothes on the first day of Lunar New Year, it is believed that this will bring bad luck, sweeping away the wealth and fortune from the family.

Avoid Black and White. 

It is inauspicious to wear black and white on the first day of Chinese New Year. The colors are often associated with sad and unhappy events, so it's best to avoid them. (Ah gong and Ah ma won't like it!) 

The Chinese believe red brings good luck, joy and success! Hence, red is the most preferred color during this festive, but if you don't like wearing red, any bright and colorful outfits are safe. 

No Crying Please...

This is the biggest taboo during Chinese New Year. Crying is forbidden! It brings sadness, problems and bad luck to the family. Avoid at all cost!

No Hospital/Doctor Visits.

If it is not an emergency, avoid going to the hospital or see a doctor during this period, as this could invite illnesses and cause poor health. 

Don't Break Anything.

It is unfortunate to break anything on the first day of new year. Broken pieces is a bad omen, so be extra careful. If something breaks, saying good auspicious words out loud may prevent misfortunes and bad luck. 

No Fighting.

Avoid disputes, arguments, gossips and foul language during this happy occasion. Watch your tongue and keep your cool! Give praises, speak kindly and use positive words to attract peace and harmony.

✅ The DO's :

Decorate The House.

Remember the ancient legend of 'Nian'? The Chinese welcome the new year by decorating their house with red lucky spring couplets, as many believe this will bring good fortune, blessings and ward off evil.

 

New Clothing.

It it recommended to wear new clothes and new shoes on the first day of Chinese New Year as it symbolizes a fresh start and a new beginning.

Pray / Go Temple.

Many Chinese families would visit the temple to pray and make offerings to the heavenly deities and to ancestors for a new year of blessings to the family.

Eating Together.

Chinese New Year is a time to feast and enjoy family bonding. Eating together enhance unity and family harmony. A family who eats together, stays together! 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

 

Clear Your Debts.

All outstanding payments and bills should be cleared before the 1st day of Chinese New Year. This is to avoid bringing old debts into the new year or you'll be slogging another year to pay off more debts. 

Stay Up Late.

According to tradition, staying up late on the Eve of Chinese New Year is said to bring longevity for our parents, the later you stay, they longer they live. It is a good virtue of filial piety.

Visit Relatives and Friends. 

It's a good time to catch up with family and friends during the long holidays. Don't forget to exchange the mandarin oranges for each house visits (for good luck) and make sure you do not exceed 8 visitors per household. 

This Chinese New Year is a little different since there are more safety measures and restrictions to fight the pandemic. Though it does affect the festive mood and cause some inconvenience but it should not stop us from enjoying good times with family/friends and celebrating this joyful festival like we always do! 

Today is Li Chun.(立春 - 03 Feb 2021) It is the beginning of Spring in the Chinese calendar. 2021 is the year of the Ox and I hope it will be a fruitful year for all! May we remind ourselves to be strong and hardworking like the Ox, in achieving our goals and dreams! 

Happy Lunar NIU Year in advance and have a fabulous CNY celebration! Here's wishing everyone a prosperous and a 'HUAT' 2021! Cheers! 🐄🧧

What are some interesting CNY taboos and superstitions you know? Share with me and comment below.🙂

10 Things What Women Really Want🌹

"A woman's heart is a deep ocean of secrets..."

Remember this famous quote from the movie, Titanic? (I've watched it for at least 5times.lol)

So the notion of the quote may be true...but getting to know women is not as hard as you think, but it is indeed important to understand what women really want instead of guessing what's on her mind, that can save you a lot of rejections, heartaches, cold wars and unhappy relationships.

Men often think women are hard to please, without a clue what's going on...How many times we heard the guys complaining to their buddies, "I don't know what's wrong with my girlfriend?", "I don't know what my wife wants from me?" 

Okay dudes! It's pretty simple. Your partner wants time, she wants your attention and she wants you! 😉

We understand men are not mind readers and no one have time for mind games anyway, we get it!  However, we can't always tell men what to do and what we want from them, after all, being demanding and controlling can causes red flags too.

But there are ways to tell what a woman wants, from her body language, her gestures, eye contacts and the tone of her voice. If you take some efforts to understand women better, you'll soon unlock the 'secrets' and even enhance the relationship.

Whether you are married, in a relationship or just started dating, here are some information and tips to help you understand what women really wants. (Dear men/husbands, please take some time to read this.😁) 

1. Communication

Proper communication is the key ingredient in every long-lasting, healthy relationship. Talk often, share your dreams and goals. Listen without judging and don't interrupt even when you don't agree with her views and beliefs. The objective of good communication is not to debate or to create a fight, but an interaction to listen and understand your partner better.

2. Respect

No relationship can survive without respect. Respect comes in many forms. Always treat a woman right! No one likes to be disrespected and mistreated in an abusive relationship. If you treat her like a Queen, she will treat you like a King! 👑

3. Saying (I Love You)

It doesn't matter how long you've been married or how long you have been together. The 3 magic words never gets old. I know some guys are too shy to express themselves and feel mushy to say those words out loud, but you can look into her eyes and whisper in her ears. Your partner love hearing those words but make sure you say it sincerely from your heart.

4. Be True and Faithful

No woman wants a player or a heart-breaker! It's never cool to toy with feelings, if you can't commit in a serious relationship and be true to her, you need to back off and let her go.

5. Affection (Hugs, cuddles & kisses)

Women wants quality couple time, just the two of you. In my opinion, there is no such thing as too much cuddles and kisses in a relationship. Physical intimacy is a couple bond, a connection with your partner and affection strengthens relationship. Give her the attention she needs. Everyone loves to feel needed and wanted.

6. Understanding and Supportive

We all have bad days or feeling under the weather sometimes. Give her some space, offer some comforts and listening ears instead of blaming her for being moody. Show her that you love and care for her. Women want men to be there for her and to work things out together. Relationship is a teamwork and it takes two to tango.

7. Protection and Sense of Security

Every woman loves a man who protects her and keep her safe, knowing that you will always have her back makes her feel loved, valued and cherished.  

8. Holding Hands

I can't speak for all the women on this one but I personally love holding hands, it makes me feel warm and comforting. Awww...how lovey-dovey when I see couples holding hands on the street or at the beach...Take my hand, honey! 👫

9. Surprises

Guys, we don't need diamonds, flowers, expensive gifts or fancy dinners to make us happy. Sweet surprises can be anything like buying a snack/dessert that she is craving for, a cute plushie that she like or breakfast in bed etc...it's the effort and sincerity that matters!

10. Compliments and Praises

Do you remember when is the last time you praise your partner? The fact is, you don't need to be a sweet talker and find the perfect words to say something nice. If your partner look gorgeous in that dress, cooks a nice meal or does something extra special for you. Thank her and let her know you appreciate it. Who doesn't love some compliments, right? Never take anything and anyone for granted!

There you go! I hope this information help but I'm sure there are more to add to the list. I am not a dating/relationship expert here, but I believe these are the top list that what women want from their partner in a serious and committed relationship.

So ladies, what do you think? Share with me and comment below if I miss out anything and share this blog with your friends if you love the tips.😎