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16 November 2019

12 Signs That A Man Loves You πŸ’˜



Do you sometimes wonder?... Is the guy that you are dating really loves you? You could try plucking petals to get an answer,(lol) but the best way to know is to observe.


Well, I am not an expert in giving relationship/dating advice but based on my personal experience and observations, there are obvious signs that a guy is deeply in love with you.


Most men aren't good at expressing their romantic feelings to their partner, however, actions and behaviors can tell how much they love you. Don't just fall for sweet talks, lovebirds! Words are only plain texts unless they are proven! After all, actions speak louder than words. Remember...Love is not what you say, love is what you do! πŸ˜˜


So here are some undeniable signs that a guy is really into you...πŸ’•


1) He wants you to be happy.
He cares about your happiness and emotions. When you are sad, he tries different ways to cheer you up, to make you smile again.


2) He is always there for you.
Anytime you need him, he gets to you the fastest he can, to be your support, a listener, he offer comfort and a shoulder to lean on.

3) He cooks for you.
Nothing is sweeter than a man who cooks for his love. Even a simple sandwich or a bowl of soup can taste the sweetest! I love a man who cooks! Hey, who doesn't like to be fed with love? 😁


4) He tries to please you.

Whether he is learning a new language or singing your favorite love songs just to make you happy. That really shows how special you are to him, because "You Are The Reason"🎢



5) He thinks about you all the time.
You are always on his mind and he misses you every day.  He wants to talk to you and listen to your voice. He asks about your day, reminds you to eat your meals. He sends you sweet love notes and cute texts the first thing in the morning when he wakes up.


6) He takes good care of you.
When you are unwell, he accompanies you to the clinic, he checks on you every few hours, making sure that you will take the medication on time and have enough rest, etc...


7) He compliments you.
He praises and celebrates your success and achievements. He compliments about your personality, your strength and natural beauty. Even when you don't wear any make-up, he still finds you beautiful, attractive and he love the way you are! He makes you feel good and confident about yourself.


8) He makes you a priority.
I believe when someone truly cares for you, they will find time! Even if it's only a few hours to be together for a dinner or a stroll at the beach, he is happy to spend time with you.


9) He doesn't give up the relationship easily.
It is common to have disagreements and arguments in any relationship. If a guy truly loves you, he will find solutions to fix the problems and work things out together to keep the relationship going.


10) He is happy and excited to see you.
He keeps smiling  every time when he meets you, he looks into your eyes and gives you full attention. He keep you close, he love holding your hands, making you feel warm and comfortable.


11) He protects you.
This is the most obvious sign when a man loves you, he is willing to be your shield in any danger. Like a knight in shining armor, he won't let anyone hurt you. He will do his best to make you feel secure and keep you safe always.


12) He shares his dreams, tells his family and friends about you.
When a guy introduces you to his family, it is a sign that he is serious about you and he wants you to be part of the family. He wants you to be in his life and to build a future together. 


Falling in love is easy but staying in love requires a lot of hard work and patience because relationships can be confusing and tricky at times...


People say love is blind (they are probably right!) Nonetheless, I do believe true love exists and if you ever find a man who does most of the things listed here, don't lose that gem! He's definitely a keeper!πŸ‘

"Happiness is to love and be loved..."


                         



29 October 2019

Things You Should Never Say To A Mom 🚫


Motherhood is challenging and stressful. Whether you are a new mom or an experienced mom, we all know it's never easy to raise a child. There will be struggles, tears and sacrifices... Being a mother is fulfilling but it's also a strenuous job, both emotionally and physically.


Words are powerful weapons and the last thing a mom need is someone making her feel bad about herself. 


Give the mother some support, words of encouragement instead of criticism and judgments. So before you make a remark, try to avoid insensitive, unkind and hurtful phrases that may upset the mothers.


Things You Should Never Say To Moms :

"You look so tired."


Mothers are tired. Especially those with newborns or younger children without any helpers or nannies/in-laws/childcare, etc. Most mothers don't get enough sleep every day. They are always busy attending to their kids, cleaning up the house, fixing meals and running daily errands, etc. Whether you are a stay-at-home mom or working moms, there are days you don't look your best. There is no need to remind them how tired or messy their hair looks.


"When are you having another child?"

Having a child is a personal decision. There are many important things to consider when you are planning for another baby.  

Whenever someone asks me to try for #3, I floored! (Are you serious?) Yes! I love children but that doesn't mean I want a 'dozen' lol. When I think about pregnancy, the awful morning sickness and the horrible contractions. Oh no! I am very sure I'm done with childbirth. Two is just enough. Thank you very much! 😁


"You should breastfeed longer..."
Breastfeeding is exhausting and it's not always easy for mothers. It can be quite embarrassing when the milk leaks in public and sometimes you can't find a nursing room to feed your hungry baby, so it's not always convenient to breastfeed on demand. 

We know 'Breast Is Best' but there are many valid reasons why some mothers don't breastfeed longer, we should respect their decisions and STOP mom-shaming. It is OK to give the baby formula, that doesn't make you are a bad mother. I breastfeed for 15months, though it isn't very long, but I think I did fine. 


"Why are your kids so skinny/chubby...What did you feed them?" 
Oh my gosh! This is one of the most annoying and rude remarks to a mother. Not all children eat anything that is served on the table. Many kids are fussy and picky eaters. I am sure all mothers feed their children with nutrition because we want our children to grow strong and healthy, but some kids just aren't good eaters. I used to stress a lot about their weight but now I came to understand that being healthy is more important than the numbers on the scale! 


"Sleep when the baby sleeps..."
Ermm...I hear this all the time but it's not always possible. In fact, when the baby sleeps, it's the best time to do some house chores, have a quick meal, pump out the milk and take a shower etc...When my kids were babies, they sleep in the cot and I would watch them sleep, to make sure they are safe and secure. Personally, I don't feel comfortable to sleep when the baby sleeps, especially when they are still little. 


"Your house is a Toys'R'us! " (LOL)

That is one hilarious remark I've heard! When you have small children at home, toys are everywhere...and when the kids get bored with old toys...Parents, grandparents, relatives start buying more toys to keep the little ones entertained. (Welcome to our toyland, please feel free to look around and make yourself at home!😁) 


"Your child cries a lot!"
No mothers want to hear that from anyone. It's really heartbreaking and distressing when a child cries! The helpless mom could be feeling scared, frustrated and trying her best to stop the crying drama! That remark doesn't serve anything, it only create more anxiety and make the mother panic! 


"Don't spoil the kids!"
OK, that one makes sense and I get the point, but trust me, it's easy to say than done! We love our children and we want to give them the best, don't we? In my opinion, protecting the children, giving them love and attention is never spoiling a child, but that's just me.


"Kids will be kids..."
Well yeah! I know that's true but that doesn't mean we should condone bad behavior. Discipline is an important part of parenting. Well, say for example, if your child got badly hurt or bullied by other kids and the parent tells you, "Kids will be kids..." Wow! how would you feel? 

Bad conduct/behavior is unacceptable and should not be ignored. As parents, it is our responsibility to teach our kids what's right and wrong.

"Stop worrying so much about your kids!"

The moment you become a mother, the worries never stop! You may worry lesser, but you will still be worried about the kids, always!...

My dear mama still worried about me when I skipped meals and when I didn't reply to her text messages. Typically, a mother never stops worrying. Maternal love, I suppose...❤️


Sometimes, words might seem unintentional and harmless to you but it matters to others, so be tactful for the choice of words you use.

...and if you are not sure what to say to a mother, always praise her for the hard work and tell her she is doing a great job! Be supportive and gracious always! 😘


So Mommies, what are some interesting remarks you have heard? Share with me and comment below. 


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