The Myths Of Motherhood ⚠️

Ok mama! I'm sure we've all heard some myths of motherhood.

I remember when I became a mother. Friends, relatives and even random strangers will offer some interesting information about motherhood; the classic myths, the old wives tales but sadly, social phenomenon can sometimes do more harm than help and that makes motherhood a lot harder than it is. 

Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love being a mom and I'm thankful to have 2 lovely children but the struggle is real! From conception, pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding and parenting...The different stages of motherhood brings different emotions of excitement, fear, joy and many overwhelming experiences. 

The journey of motherhood is challenging but it's definitely worth it! However, many misinformation and misconceptions can often caused moms to get judged brutally and unfairly, these myths impact many moms that made them feel bad, guilty and shamed. 

Here are some myths that I have heard, in my journey of motherhood...

Myth #1 : "Breastfeeding help you lose weight..."

Well, I heard this one all the time but too bad it didn't work for me!Lol. I breastfeed for about 15months for my firstborn and the truth is (*at least in my personal experience) I get super hungry after I breastfeed many times a day and I actually eat more, I don't see a significant drop on the scale so this one is busted! (*for me)

Myth #2 : "Breastfeeding is a natural thing!" 

We all know "Breast Is Best" and I fully support breastfeeding campaigns and giving our babies the best nutrients, but sometimes it's not always easy for new mothers. Breastfeeding is a process that requires patience, determination and proper techniques.

Personally, I love the bonding and the skin-to-skin contact when I nurse my baby but breastfeeding can be uncomfortable, exhausting and inconvenience especially when you are in public places and there is no nursing room nearby. It can be quite embarrassing when the milk leaks, imagine walking around with a soaked blouse, oh gosh! Nonetheless, my breastfeeding journey has been a memorable experience but I don't miss it! 😅

I strongly believe every mom wants the best for their child so whether you breastfeed for a month, for a year or even longer, it doesn't make you less or more of a mother. 

I see many new moms struggling with breastfeeding, feeling immense shame for poor lactation and blaming themselves for not providing enough breast milk. Please don't be too hard on yourself, mummies! Not all moms have a milk supply of a fountain. Breastfeed as long as you can and it's OK to stop when you need to. 

Myth #3 : "A mom should dress like a mom." 

This is one hilarious remark! I mean seriously, is there actually a mom's 'outfit'? Ok, I get the point but in my opinion, I feel that every mom should allow to dress whatever that makes them feel beautiful, comfortable and confident. There is nothing wrong if the mom wants to wear the mini skirt or that bikini, etc...The way we dress has nothing to do with the status of motherhood.  

Myth #4 : "You are the mom, you should fix the problems!"

We often see people pointing fingers and start blaming the poor mother when the child misbehaved. People are too quick to judge without a clue what exactly happened. Hang on! Moms are not problem solvers, we are only humans. Be kind to mothers, we are learning, we trying very hard everyday, we get tired and we made mistakes too. Be more supportive and encouraging instead of mom-shaming. 

Myth #5 : "Csection isn't a real birth..." 

The controversy of Cesarean vs Natural Birth is totally pointless. What matters most is the safety of the baby and the mother. 

I had Csect twice, probably the most nerve-wrecking ordeal of my life when the gynecologist told me I had to go for an emergency c-section when the dilation was slow. I was scared and didn't know what to expect but I didn't care about the procedure and how long the recovery would takes, all I wanted was to bring my baby out safely. 

Not all labors are fast and smooth, some are long and traumatic. The birthing methods should never define the labor of love and motherhood. All births are amazing, it doesn't matter how it happens, both takes much courage and strength.💪😎

Myth #6 : "You will enjoy being a mom every day!" 

As much as I love my kids and they are my world, but there are some days I wish I can take a day off, just relax, do my own stuff and hang out with my besties. Kids can sometimes get you so annoyed and stressed-out with their constant whining and tantrums. We all have bad days, mummies need a little break and some space too. 

Myth #7 : "Asking for help is a sign of weakness..."

No, surely not! Mothers are multi-taskers and they play many roles. It is not humanly possible to manage everything alone! We all need help from time to time, so don't feel weak to ask for help, it's better to get some help than dealing with all the meltdowns that could affect your emotions and mental well-being.

As mothers, we need to take care of ourselves first in order to take care of the children and our family. Don't be afraid to reach out for some support and assistance. 

The judgement from society can be unjustified and cruel, we need to detach the myths of motherhood from reality, besides, there is no fixed formula for motherhood. Every child and every situation is different, do not let negative beliefs and stereotype criticism affect your role as a mother. Do what is best for your children and the family! 😉

"A mother's love is instinctual, unconditional and forever..."

What are some interesting myths you heard, share with me and comment below.

10 Things What Women Really Want🌹

"A woman's heart is a deep ocean of secrets..."

Remember this famous quote from the movie, Titanic? (I've watched it for at least 5times.lol)

So the notion of the quote may be true...but getting to know women is not as hard as you think, but it is indeed important to understand what women really want instead of guessing what's on her mind, that can save you a lot of rejections, heartaches, cold wars and unhappy relationships.

Men often think women are hard to please, without a clue what's going on...How many times we heard the guys complaining to their buddies, "I don't know what's wrong with my girlfriend?", "I don't know what my wife wants from me?" 

Okay dudes! It's pretty simple. Your partner wants time, she wants your attention and she wants you! 😉

We understand men are not mind readers and no one have time for mind games anyway, we get it!  However, we can't always tell men what to do and what we want from them, after all, being demanding and controlling can causes red flags too.

But there are ways to tell what a woman wants, from her body language, her gestures, eye contacts and the tone of her voice. If you take some efforts to understand women better, you'll soon unlock the 'secrets' and even enhance the relationship.

Whether you are married, in a relationship or just started dating, here are some information and tips to help you understand what women really wants. (Dear men/husbands, please take some time to read this.😁) 

1. Communication

Proper communication is the key ingredient in every long-lasting, healthy relationship. Talk often, share your dreams and goals. Listen without judging and don't interrupt even when you don't agree with her views and beliefs. The objective of good communication is not to debate or to create a fight, but an interaction to listen and understand your partner better.

2. Respect

No relationship can survive without respect. Respect comes in many forms. Always treat a woman right! No one likes to be disrespected and mistreated in an abusive relationship. If you treat her like a Queen, she will treat you like a King! 👑

3. Saying (I Love You)

It doesn't matter how long you've been married or how long you have been together. The 3 magic words never gets old. I know some guys are too shy to express themselves and feel mushy to say those words out loud, but you can look into her eyes and whisper in her ears. Your partner love hearing those words but make sure you say it sincerely from your heart.

4. Be True and Faithful

No woman wants a player or a heart-breaker! It's never cool to toy with feelings, if you can't commit in a serious relationship and be true to her, you need to back off and let her go.

5. Affection (Hugs, cuddles & kisses)

Women wants quality couple time, just the two of you. In my opinion, there is no such thing as too much cuddles and kisses in a relationship. Physical intimacy is a couple bond, a connection with your partner and affection strengthens relationship. Give her the attention she needs. Everyone loves to feel needed and wanted.

6. Understanding and Supportive

We all have bad days or feeling under the weather sometimes. Give her some space, offer some comforts and listening ears instead of blaming her for being moody. Show her that you love and care for her. Women want men to be there for her and to work things out together. Relationship is a teamwork and it takes two to tango.

7. Protection and Sense of Security

Every woman loves a man who protects her and keep her safe, knowing that you will always have her back makes her feel loved, valued and cherished.  

8. Holding Hands

I can't speak for all the women on this one but I personally love holding hands, it makes me feel warm and comforting. Awww...how lovey-dovey when I see couples holding hands on the street or at the beach...Take my hand, honey! 👫

9. Surprises

Guys, we don't need diamonds, flowers, expensive gifts or fancy dinners to make us happy. Sweet surprises can be anything like buying a snack/dessert that she is craving for, a cute plushie that she like or breakfast in bed etc...it's the effort and sincerity that matters!

10. Compliments and Praises

Do you remember when is the last time you praise your partner? The fact is, you don't need to be a sweet talker and find the perfect words to say something nice. If your partner look gorgeous in that dress, cooks a nice meal or does something extra special for you. Thank her and let her know you appreciate it. Who doesn't love some compliments, right? Never take anything and anyone for granted!

There you go! I hope this information help but I'm sure there are more to add to the list. I am not a dating/relationship expert here, but I believe these are the top list that what women want from their partner in a serious and committed relationship.

So ladies, what do you think? Share with me and comment below if I miss out anything and share this blog with your friends if you love the tips.😎

12 Signs That A Man Loves You 💘

Do you sometimes wonder?... Is the guy that you are dating really loves you? You could try plucking petals to get an answer,(lol) but the best way to know is to observe.


Well, I am not an expert in giving relationship/dating advice but based on my personal experience and observations, there are obvious signs that a guy is deeply in love with you.

Most men aren't good at expressing their romantic feelings to their partner, however, actions and behaviors can tell how much they love you. Don't just fall for sweet talks, lovebirds! Words are only plain texts unless they are proven! After all, actions speak louder than words. Remember...Love is not what you say, love is what you do! 😘

So here are some undeniable signs that a guy is really into you...💕


1) He wants you to be happy.
He cares about your happiness and emotions. When you are sad, he tries different ways to cheer you up, to make you smile again.


2) He is always there for you.
Anytime you need him, he gets to you the fastest he can, to be your support, a listener, he offer comfort and a shoulder to lean on.

3) He cooks for you.
Nothing is sweeter than a man who cooks for his love. Even a simple sandwich or a bowl of soup can taste the sweetest! I love a man who cooks! Hey, who doesn't like to be fed with love? 😁

4) He tries to please you.
Whether he is learning a new language or singing your favorite love songs just to make you happy. That really shows how special you are to him, because "You Are The Reason"🎶

5) He thinks about you all the time.
You are always on his mind and he misses you every day.  He wants to talk to you and listen to your voice. He asks about your day, reminds you to eat your meals. He sends you sweet love notes and cute texts the first thing in the morning when he wakes up.


6) He takes good care of you.
When you are unwell, he accompanies you to the clinic, he checks on you every few hours, making sure that you will take the medication on time and have enough rest, etc...


7) He compliments you.
He praises and celebrates your success and achievements. He compliments about your personality, your strength and natural beauty. Even when you don't wear any make-up, he still finds you beautiful, attractive and he love the way you are! He makes you feel good and confident about yourself.


8) He makes you a priority.

I believe when someone truly cares for you, they will find time! Even if it's only a few hours to be together for a dinner or a stroll at the beach, he is happy to spend time with you.


9) He doesn't give up the relationship easily.
It is common to have disagreements and arguments in any relationship. If a guy truly loves you, he will find solutions to fix the problems and work things out together to keep the relationship going.


10) He is happy and excited to see you.
He keeps smiling  every time when he meets you, he looks into your eyes and gives you full attention. He keep you close, he love holding your hands, making you feel warm and comfortable.


11) He protects you.
This is the most obvious sign when a man loves you, he is willing to be your shield in any danger. Like a knight in shining armor, he won't let anyone hurt you. He will do his best to make you feel secure and keep you safe always.


12) He shares his dreams, tells his family and friends about you.
When a guy introduces you to his family, it is a sign that he is serious about you and he wants you to be part of the family. He wants you to be in his life and to build a future together. 

Falling in love is easy but staying in love requires a lot of hard work and patience because relationships can be confusing and tricky at times...


People say love is blind (they are probably right!) Nonetheless, I do believe true love exists and if you ever find a man who does most of the things listed here, don't lose that gem! He's definitely a keeper!👍

"Happiness is to love and be loved..."

                         

Dating Advice : The DOs and DON'Ts ⚠️

So, I hung out with my good friends the other day and we were chatting about our best/worst dates...and I thought maybe I should blog on this topic today! 😊

Well, I'm not a dating expert here, but I'm not new to dating so I'll share my personal experience, some advice and tips with the readers. 

If you are searching for Mr/Ms Right, but hasn't had much progress so far and wonder what went wrong, here are some dating advise/tips for reference. 

We all know that First Impression is very important, so it is necessary to know the DOs & DON'Ts and some safety tips on the first date.

        

1) Be Punctual

I know unforeseen events are unavoidable and if you are late, do make a call to explain and apologize sincerely. I don't like being late and nobody enjoys waiting. I'm always slightly earlier or on time. People who are punctual always give me the best impression because it tells me how well they manage the time and how much they value the date/appointment. 

2) Dress Appropriately

You don't have to dress like a Superstar or wear a tuxedo on your first date but basic grooming is still necessary. Wear something smart, neat and comfortable that fit the occasion. Remember, it is a date, NOT an interview! But avoid wearing singlets, sweatpants, shorts and slippers unless you are meeting at the beach, bbq, etc... 

3) Maintain Gentle Eye Contact and Smile 

The eyes are the window to the soul and I believe eyes don't lie! I know some people are very shy and they avoid looking into the eyes, but if your eyes are wandering elsewhere during a conversation, your date may feel that you are bored and uninterested. However, if you keep staring into the eyes, that could make some people feel uneasy too. So just be natural, smile and look at the face when they speak. 

4) Put Down The Phone

Mobile phones are so important in our daily life and I know most people are attached to their phones, all the time!...checking their social media, emails, texting and playing online games etc..but if you are constantly checking and tapping your phone every few mins, then you are not giving full attention to your date and that is not going to leave any good impression for sure! 

5) Relax and Take It Easy

Some people get really nervous on a first date. They start to tense up, fidget and become clumsy at times. I once went on a dinner date...The poor guy was so nervous that he knocked over the glass a few times and had to rush to the washroom to clean up. Omg, it was hilarious! So just chill and breathe... 

6) Keep The Conversation Fun and Interesting

There may be awkward moments of silence when you can't think of any interesting topics to break the ice and to keep the conversation going. I would suggest talking about hobbies, music, movies and interests for a start and take it from there... Don't be the only one talking, ask questions and let the conversation flow.

Jokes are fine but keep it mild on the first date! Nobody wants to date someone who acts like a clown. Laughing and cracking jokes throughout the dinner aren't very cool! Avoid dirty jokes / dark humor on a first date because it may be inappropriate and offensive for some people, so do be more sensitive.

7) NEVER Talk About Your Ex!!! (A Big No-No!)

Indeed! You probably heard this a thousand times! Talking about your ex on your first date is never encouraged! That is one of the Biggest deal breaker! I do think most people are aware but sometimes.. words, places, songs may trigger past memories and they start talking about their ex unintentionally, without realizing a huge mistake they made! 

Be careful not to get too emotional on your first date. No one likes to hear sad, break up stories so it's time to let go and move on...Let history be history! especially when you are dating someone new. 

If a guy start talking about his ex-girlfriends on our first date. He probably will never hear from me again! lolz! I do understand everyone has a past but if someone keeps talking about their past relationships then they are probably not ready to start a new relationship, in my opinion.

8) Be Polite

Maybe the person isn't what you are looking for or maybe there isn't any chemistry...but you can still be friends! There is no need to get upset or feel depressed."There are plenty of fish in the sea!" It's no big deal if the date didn't work out.

9) Don't Move Too Fast

Ok dudes! I know she is cute, sweet and attractive but don't get too physical/intimate on the first date! Take it slow and watch the body language. If your date is not ready, don't keep pushing and trying so hard, because that will only push her away in the end! Surely you don't want to scare her, so be respectful and a real gentleman! 😎

10) Arrange The Next Date 

If the date went well and you would like to meet up again... Be spontaneous and make the first move! Don't wait too long to ask her out again. You can plan a movie date, an outing, picnic, sports, etc..

11) Meet At Public Places 

NEVER meet in secluded places, hotel rooms or an apartment. Always let a trusted friend know you are meeting someone on a date, so they have some information and know your whereabouts.

12) Stay Away From Alcohol

It doesn't matter how well you hold the liquor. Alcohol can cause serious danger! (If you get drunk) I'm sure you have heard scary stories and nasty news of victims on their first date. Unfortunately, scammers and con-artists are everywhere! Always stay alert and trust your gut. If you don't feel right, leave immediately! 

If you must use the washroom..Never drink the same glass when you are back! (just to be safe!) It is OK not to finish everything, you can always ask for a new glass if you must drink. 

While dating can be fun and it's exciting to meet new people but it's also important to protect yourself always...I hope these information helps. 

Have fun and be safe! 😘

Do you have any dating stories, advice / tips to share?...Comment below. 

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My Mom, My Hero! 💖

Mama, 

As I flip through the old photo albums again, it brings back so many random memories... 


I still remember how you pat me to sleep every night...you must be so tired, I was such a clingy child! 

I remember you will always buy my favorite Ice-cream when I asked for one. I always get the biggest cone! 

I remember you took care of me when I was sick for weeks. I know you were so worried, so exhausted...You didn't get much sleep and had to get up early to work every day. 


I remember you were peeping through the windows to check on me, during my first day of school. I know you were as nervous as me...



I remember you rushed down to school when you forgot about my pocket money for recess. I could never forget that anxious look on your face. 


I remember the day I got hurt and injured my leg. You were shaken and helpless when you saw me screaming in pain. You rushed me to the nearest clinic. I know you were crying inside and it breaks your heart to see the bandage on my leg.

I remember that night you cried silently in your room when I didn't get good grades for my exams. I'm sorry that I let you down, I'm sorry that I made you cry, but please believe that I really tried...

I remember you warned me about the boys! You would nag all day and wait for me at the void deck when I came home late. I was mad at you for being controlling and overly protective but I know you did that because you care for me and want me to be home safe. I know you will always protect me and watch my back!

I remember you were hiding at the backstage during my performance in a singing contest. I saw you in the crowd later, smiling at me with a big thumb up when I made it to the finals. I think I made you proud that day!

I remember you were so happy for me when I got my driving license when I was 19, I took you out for a spin and we had a great celebration! 

I remember you held my hands tightly, the day I got married...I saw the happy tears in your eyes during the tea ceremony, but I know you felt very emotional that day... 

Mama, I know how much you love me, you have done so much over the years that I could never possibly list everything down here. No matter what I have done, you forgive me and you never give up on me! You always encourage me and give me support. You are always there to share my happiness and sadness.

Life was tough on you but you fought bravely and conquered the battles. I admire your strength and courage... You have taught me to be strong, to be positive and never to give up in life! You have a heart of gold. You taught me to be kind, selfless and to help others in need. You have raised me well and built a warrior in me! I have become a stronger and braver person today because of you. I will always teach my children the way you taught me.

Your hair has turned grey and your hands are wrinkled now, but in my eyes...you are always that beautiful and caring Angel who will always protect me and keep me safe from harm. Thank you so much for believing in me and taking good care of me. I'm truly grateful for your unconditional love, kindness, guidance and support.

No words or gifts can ever repay your love but still, I want to say a big thank you for everything you have done. You will always be my hero! Someone whom I look up to...I Love You, Mama!

I am writing this blog to express my appreciation and gratitude to my dear Mama for Mother's Day and I dedicate this to all the amazing mothers out there who truly deserve the highest respect and affirmation for their hard work and sacrifices. Motherhood is one of the most challenging job in the world but a very rewarding one as well.

Mother's Day is just a few days away but you can show love any day, any time! You don't have to wait for Mother's day to buy her a gift, give her a treat or take her out for a meal... 

Everyday can be Mother's Day too! 😉


Pick up the phone, give your Mom a call..give her a big warm hug and tell her how much you love her! That would be the sweetest and a priceless gift for every mother! 

Happy Mother's Day! Have a beautiful day filled with love, laughter and lots of cuddles! 👸😍💕🌷

Share this post to all the Supermoms in the world.. With love & blessings! ♥️

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What's In Your Bag, Mommy? 👜💗

Have you ever wonder why do Mummies carry a big bag when they are out with the little ones? 

Children are messy, they are very active, maybe a little clumsy too, they are curious about everything and always eager to explore... Sometimes, they get all dirty while eating, playing, running around and they may even get hurt during outdoor activities...

So if you have a child below 5 years old, I do think it is still necessary to bring the Mummy Bag along but don't worry, the good news is...the bag gets lighter as the kids grow older. (Thank goodness!)


My hubby often teased me for being a 'Doraemon', (Say whaat?!..🙄) I'm sure everyone knows the Robot Cat, Doraemon who has everything in his magic pocket. Well yeah, I guess my bag has almost everything too. Anyways, I don't mind such nickname since Doraemon is pretty adorable, witty and intelligent too. How appropriate, dear! 😁

My son is 8 this year and my daughter is 3.5yo now, she doesn't need the stroller anymore so I use a regular tote bag or a sling bag to put all the important stuff whenever I take them out. Well, you'll never know when you need those things and I feel more secure when I have these precious items in my bag all the time.


My friends always feel safe when Mama 'Doraemon' is around. Haha! Nah...I don't really care if people laughed at me for carrying all this stuff because I'd rather be teased at, than rushing to the nearest convenience store just to grab some wet wipes, medicated cream or plasters that you desperately need them immediately...and what if there is no pharmacy or a mini-mart anywhere near you!😱 Oh no... I may start to panic so I would avoid such anxiety and unnecessary drama. 


I believe the mothers would definitely feel more safe and secure when we have these handy items in our Mummy Bag anytime we need them and I prefer to call it "A Bag Of Love." 

...So these are what I have in my bag :


☑️ Wet Wipes + Tissues 
Practice good hygiene is so important. No parents would want the kids to get sick because it's a nightmare taking care of an unwell and cranky child. These are compulsory items in my bag, they are very handy when you can't find a washroom nearby or during picnics and outdoor activities. 


☑️ Sanitizer
Germs are everywhere. It's always good to keep your hands clean. This is one of the top items that I MUST have everywhere I go. Sometimes, I even bring two bottles just in case I lost it!


☑️ Repellent Patch + Citronella Oil
Mosquito bites are nasty! I bring these along because we do a lot of outdoors activities quite often. I always bring extra so I can share it with my friends or give it to anyone who needs it. Buzz off, Mozzies!


☑️ Water Bottles
I always remind the kids to drink more water. Our body needs H2O to stay healthy and hydrated.


☑️ Light Jacket / Sweater / Extra Clothings / Caps 
I pack a set of extra clothing and jackets only when we are out the whole day but if it's only a few hours outing or shopping trips,etc.. I just bring their caps along.


☑️ Disposable Raincoat 
I never like to carry an umbrella...I prefer disposable raincoats and they are very useful on rainy days. 


☑️ Recycle Bag
Sometimes, we drop by to the library to borrow some books and I may need to get some groceries on the way home so I always bring 1 or 2 recycle shopping bags. They are light, waterproof and eco-friendly too.👍


☑️ Medicated Oil / Antiseptic Cream / Vicks / Plasters
I bring these along just in case...I hope we don't need to use them.


☑️ Kids Cologne
Who doesn't like to smell fresh and pleasant all day...


☑️ Portable Rechargeable Fan
It's really hot out there! I need the fans because my kids perspire easily and sometimes they get moody when the weather is too hot. We have Summer throughout the year, in Singapore!


☑️ Snacks
My daughter loves snacking. The snacks help to distract and comfort her when she whines! They are my lifesaver!Lol..But too much snacking is bad, so get only healthy snacks! 


☑️ Pocket Toys
These mini puzzles keep them entertained during long bus rides. I rarely bring electronics devices when we are out because I don't want the kids to be addicted and expose too much screen time. Actually, these toys are pretty cool and fun too. I really love them! 

As you can see, almost all the items in the Mummy Bag are for our little ones. The children are always the priorities, therefore, the Mummy Bag becomes a part of our regular accessories... So please don't fuss or laugh at the Mummies for packing all these stuff because we do it all for LOVE...just making sure the kids are well and safe always!


Hey Mummies, did I miss out any precious items? Let me know what other things you have, in your bag of love...😉

Till then...Happy Mothering! 💗


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