Why I Love Being A Mom - The Joy Of Motherhood 💖

       

                          

*A Special Blog For Mother's Day*

Motherhood is an incredible journey filled with discovery, immeasurable love and a chain of complex emotions. From conception, pregnancy and childbirth, these special moments are truly remarkable and beyond words...

Well, Motherhood doesn't come easy for me, it was an intense and dramatic journey...but thankfully, I FINALLY conceived my first child naturally, when my reproductive system decided to cooperate and 'activate' lol..and my 2nd child is a SG50 Jubilee Baby. The day I became a mother, marks the glorious moment of my life and I'm truly grateful for the gift of Motherhood. My children are my Sunshine and Happiness!🌞❤️

Despite many challenges and the unglamorous part of Motherhood, there are many wonderful moments and here's why...I Love Being A Mom :

1. Stronger and Positive Personality 💖
Being a mother has made me a better and stronger person. I didn't know I could multi-task and overcome all the challenges along the way. Raising a child is never easy, it's a long process that requires tons of patience, hard work and sacrifices. Motherhood has tap into my feminine side to be more empathetic, nurturing and compassionate towards people around me.

 

     

 

2. Being Their First Teacher🎓
Watching my kids grow everyday and unlock new milestones is a fulfilling experience. It's a sense of satisfaction to share my knowledge and teach my children about life and humanity. I am glad to be part of their life to encourage and inspire them to explore their strengths and potentials.

3. Joy and Laughter😄

Children brings joy and laughter into the family, they create a warm and lively ambience. Life is much interesting and meaningful with children around the house. They color my world and complete my life!

4. Strength and Motivation 💪
Some days were crazy and overwhelmed, but whenever I see their sweet smiles and happy faces, all the stress and exhaustions just disappear!

 

My children give me strength, courage and motivation to tackle the challenges in life. No matter what the situation is, I Will Prevail and I Never Quit! I want to be an example for my children to build a strong and assertive attitude to pursue their dreams and aspirations.

5. Free Unlimited Cuddles and Kisses 💋
Being cuddled and kissed is one of the best feeling in the world! My heart is full when my kids give me the biggest hugs! Their warm cuddles and sweet kisses are the best remedies on those long, hectic days.

              

6. Sweet and Cute Surprises 💝

I love children. I can't help it when they are so adorable, their innocent expressions, giggles and body movements are way too cute! I still remember my son love singing and doing the Barney dance when he was a toddler, it still makes me smile when I watched the old video clips. Ahh.. my daughter made me some snacks with a note the other day...These sweet little surprises warms my heart and made my day!

   

                 

7. Family Bonding 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

I enjoy spending time with my kids doing random activities. We love playground trips, watching cartoons, kite-flying, snuggle times and eating ice-creams together...and when my children dozed off in my arms, it feels blissful and comforting. These are the moments I live for..Priceless!

8. My Junior Versions 👦👧

They say my kids have my eyes and smiles, like a "Mini Mandy"😄 Yeah, I see similar personality but best of all, they both love Music and Art, just like their Mommy! It must be my creative genes, Daddy is so 'jealous'..Haha!😆

9. Gratitude and Appreciation🥰
I never knew how challenging and demanding Motherhood is, until I became a mother. I could relate and fully understand why my mom is always so anxious and tired...

All her nags make sense to me now. I have so much gratitude, admiration, respect for her strength and everything she has done for the family. Thanks Momma! 

10. Duties and Responsibility 👸
Motherhood is messy and exhausting! There are sleepless nights, endless cleanings, meltdowns, tears, worries and heartaches. At times, my kids made me really mad, frustrated and emotional, but no matter how tired I am and how despair I feel...I will do my best, I have no regrets and I wouldn't trade anything for Motherhood, it's one of the best gifts in life!

I believe as a Mother, it's my duty, responsibility and a promise to my children that I will always be there to support, protect and love them. They can always count on Mommy!😊

                   

 A Mother's Love Is Instinctual, Unconditional and Infinity...  Appreciate The Beauty Of New Life and Celebrate The Joy Of Motherhood!🌷

 

                       

                                      

To all the amazing & beautiful Moms out there..Have a lovely Mother's Day Weekend!  💗💐

✅ Self-Care Tips For Moms

Ok Mommies, now that the kids are back to school, you deserve some 'me-time' to relax and revitalize! Parenting is a lot of hard work, commitments, responsibilities and the list goes on...

This year, I can finally have more time for myself when both my kids are in the same school. For parents who have a Jubilee baby (SG50), I'm sure you were feeling anxious and excited for their first day in primary school. (I took lots of photos & videos on that special day!😊) My daughter is adapting well and make many new friends, I'm glad she didn't cry and she enjoy going to school with her elder brother.

Having the extra hours to myself is a luxury of freedom that I've been waiting for so long...Well, if you have a helper/nanny, grandparents, in-laws or any relatives who can help you out with the little ones, (lucky you!) you probably won't resonate my excitement, but for many moms like myself who are literally the sole caregiver for our kids with no helper, no in-laws/guardians and a hubby who works long hours/oversea etc..(I feel you and I'm so proud of you..Well done, Mommies!) You gotta' give yourself credits for the versatility and multi-tasking! Nonetheless, all mothers deserve the recognition for the unconditional love and sacrifices for the family.👍

The lunar new year festive is the busiest time for moms and the current outbreak narrative is intoxicating and disheartening. It greatly affect our emotions and morale, so it's important that we practice daily self-care to maintain healthy physical & mental well-being.

Here are some Self-Care Tips / Ideas and my personal advice for busy Moms :

1. Be Organised. (Plan Your Time)

It's never easy balancing work and family life, but with proper time management and good habits, you can get the jobs done on schedule.

Prioritize the important/urgent tasks and set a daily/weekly routine for work, kids, couple time, family bonding, house chores, etc..A routine will guide you to manage the daily tasks productively. 

Don't overwork. The truth is, work will never end! Always spend quality time with your children and your partner at the end of the day.

For me, my children comes first and my family will always be my top priority. I am grateful that I am financially stable, I prefer to work for myself, to have the flexibility to schedule my work at my own pace, doing things that I desire!

2. Take Catnap.(30 - 45 mins)

A power nap during mid-day is a great booster, it allows our body & mind to relax and recharge in a hibernate mode. When we have enough rest, we feel refreshed, more energetic and function better. Happiness is an afternoon nap! 💤

3. Eat Well & Drink More Water. (Enjoy Your Favorite Food)

Food are great pleasure and comfort! Good food brings good mood! When I have a busy schedule with writing assignments and zoom sessions, I hardly have time to sit down comfortably to enjoy a warm, decent meal. It's usually a quick bite or instant food,lol..But now, I can have long, undisturbed lunch, enjoying my flower tea and eating my favorite sushi in my Snoopy pajamas!😅

4. Talk To A Friend. (Call, Text, Facetime!)

Deep conversations/chatting with a good friend is heartwarming..You'll feel much better after you talk it out and release your emotions. Everyone needs a good listener, someone who is supportive, who understand the situations and never judge. If you have a dear friend who is willing to listen to your endless rants with patience and kindness, cherish that special bond & friendship, true friends are blessings!

5. Beauty Routines. (Look Good For Yourself!)

Pamper yourself and be nice to your body. Take a long bath, style up your hair or wear a new outfit! Looking good makes you feel great and confident. In my opinion, fashion and grooming shouldn't stop when you become a mother and every mom can look her best! "Mommy, when is the last time you paint your nails? do your make-up? and visit the spa/salons?" Maybe it's time to indulge and shower yourself some tender loving care. 😘

6. Listen To Music.(Sing, Dance, TikTok!)

Music is the best therapy! It creates a fun and lively ambiance. Whenever I feel under the weather, I would sing out loud, make random Tiktok videos, play my Ukulele / Guitar and it makes me feel better instantly. Like a magic pill, music never fails to brighten up my day! 🌞

       

I firmly believe that Music has the power to inspire, to heal and to connect our deep emotions. Through many tough times and struggles as a mother, music is always there for me and it's been a huge part of my life now..I guess you can't go wrong with music! 😎

7. Stay Calm and Control Your Emotions. (Protect Your Peace!)

Random topics, news, events and people may trigger some tensions and conflicts. Keep your cool and chill! Be wise and walk away from bad vibes and drama. Be selective, don't fight battles that don't matter! Not everything requires your reaction and attention. Sometimes, PEACE is better than being right!

It's Okay To Not Be Okay...

Motherhood is exhausting, demanding and a relentless journey, some days are intense and insane! 

But it's normal to experience negative emotions, frustrations, disappointments and meltdowns... but remember, DO NOT trap yourself in a 'mental prison'. Divert your thoughts, visions and focus on the positivity in every situation. The bad days will pass! 

    

Listen to your body and don't be too hard on yourself. Don't feel guilty if you can't do everything in a day, it's never selfish to take a break and rest...You don't need to be a Wonder Woman to save the world! We are only humans, it's OK to take one step at a time.

You are in charge of your own happiness! Self-care is much needed in our drastic lifestyle today, it is imperative that mothers need to replenish physical & emotional energy in order to provide the best care for the family. 

            

Be kind to yourself and take time to do what makes you happy. Make Self-care a priority every day! 🥰

"Live Well, Laugh Often, Love Much!"❤

What's your daily self-care tips? Share with me and comment below! 😉

(*Disclaimer : The information provided on this blog is based on personal experience and for reference purposes. No medical advice intended. Please consult your local healthcare physicians for diagnosis and medical treatments - Mommywarrior77)

Effective Parenting - Mental Wellness For Students 🎓

The recent news triggered some social attention and a major concern for parents. I wonder, "Are the children too stressed in schools?"

Mental health is a complex and a sensitive subject that most people are not comfortable to share and discuss liberally, but it is so important to understand and take control of mental health, as it affects greatly on a person's thoughts, emotions and behaviors.

Like all adults, children have different emotions and bad days too, they could be experiencing prolonged mental stress in school and not aware of the danger of these intense emotions could cause.

We've all been a student before...School isn't always a fun and safe place. A child could be struggling with studies, dealing with bullies, feeling isolated or having low self-esteem etc...They could be having fear, anxiety, depression or having meltdowns and not know where and who they can seek help and support.

Do you still remember when our parents used to nag at us to study hard, get a degree, find a good job and have a successful life... I know as parents, we want the best for our children, especially we are living in a competitive society today, but to the child, it could be a very stressful ordeal to reach our expectations. 

We have to be mindful that life isn't all about getting good grades, every child has different potential. Yes! A degree is a great academic honor...but even if your child didn't get a degree, it doesn't mean that they can't be successful later in life. Remember in the end, The Tortoise Won The Race!🥇

People like Bill Gates, Ralph Lauren and Steve Jobs doesn't have a college degree, are they not rich, famous and successful? Anything Is Possible!👍

 

                                                   

Now don't get me wrong, education is still extremely important as we all need knowledge and skills to achieve our dreams and goals. The world need doctors, lawyers, engineers too, but the point is to believe that our children is capable to do many great things even without the perfect grades.

The truth is, school doesn't teach you everything and life doesn't stop after graduation. The road is long for our children to explore and excel to their full potential.

Here are my personal parenting tips and advice to improve mental well-being for students/children :

What Can Parents Do? 💡🤔

1. Communicate daily

Talk to your children every day no matter how busy you are. 20 - 30 mins is a good start. Put down your phone and give them full attention. Listen patiently and don't interrupt, allow your children to express themselves, the more you communicate, the stronger the bond and you will understand your children much better as they grow. (Your child need more than a mobile device.)

2. Don't Compare Your Child with Anyone

No one likes to be compared. It is a psychological damage to a child's self-esteem and it is hard to reverse. A traumatic childhood and bad memories could stay permanently. Your child may grow up thinking that they are never good enough! Accept their flaws and love them for who they are.

                        

3. Praise Your Child Genuinely (But Don't Overdo)

Compliments made us feel good and appreciated, but be specify and genuine. Instead of saying, "Well done, good job, sweetie!" Tell your child, "Mommy is proud of you for cleaning up your room and helping your sister with her homework, you are a great brother." However, avoid excessive praises as this may cause the child to be arrogant, having a boastful attitude and nobody wants to befriend with snobs!

4. Acknowledge Their Feelings

Everyone reacts to situations differently. Please do NOT judge or shame them for their personal thoughts, but try to understand from different perspectives. Every emotions are valid. 

       

5. Positive Self-Talk & Self-Love

Teach children to believe in themselves, this will encourage them to build up their confidence and independence. Celebrate small victory and be their cheer leader! Let them know it is OK to fail, keep trying but do not quit! Use positive, powerful words and remind them about their strengths, good conducts/personality etc...

       

6. Have Realistic Expectations

Getting straight A's is impressive but don't over-stress the child and penalize them just because they didn't top the class or get the best grades. I think B Is Brilliant too! As long as the child put in their best efforts, we should be proud of them.

7. Be There For Them (Be A Support!)

Everyone needs comfort and support. Do NOT expect young children to behave like independent grown-ups, their young minds are not mature enough to handle all the problems by themselves. Let your children know that they are not alone to face the problems, they can always count on Mommy & Daddy for help and support.

8. Set Good Examples

Children will follow their parents' examples more than their advice. If you want your child to have good morals and behaviors, be a good example, a role model and practice what you preach. Children are constantly watching, observing and learning from the way we speak, react and how we treat others.

           

9. Learn From Mistakes

Every mistakes will teach the children some important lessons. Explain to them the danger and consequences of making bad choices. This will help them to analyse every situations carefully and be responsible for their actions.

10. Teach Children To Protect Themselves

Remind our children that every problem has a solution! Teach them to reach out to parents, teachers, a trusted adult/friend when they need help, but NEVER suffer in silence.

Parenting is a tough and a challenging journey. Time has changed, the classic parenting tactics need to be revised from time to time. Those parenting guide books and all the seminars/workshops you attended are a source for reference, not every answers can be found in books. Parenting is a Hands-On skill and experience, rather than a theoretical knowledge.

In my honest opinion, there is no perfect formula for parenting, the guideline is to do what works the best for your children.

     

Our role as a parent is to protect, guide, discipline our children and help them to become a better person. Whatever your parenting strategies and beliefs are, I am sure at the end of the day, all parents want to raise a strong, confident, healthy child.

Always remember...

Your child's mental health is more important than their grades. A positive mind and a resilient child is much likely to overcome adversity, to achieve great success and happiness in life!🏆

Spread the words...Mental Health Matters! 💚 

"If there is eternity, I would spend an endless lifetime, to keep my children safe under my wings." ❤ ~ Mommywarrior77

👉 Mothers are Angels! 💯😇💖

*** Disclaimer ***

(This blog is written by Mommywarrior77. All information provided are based on my personal experience as a mother with 2 young children. No medical advice intended. Please seek professional support.)