Things I Wish I Knew When I Was Younger

Have you ever wondered what would your life be if you had taken a different route on your career, relationships and goals etc...

I had a deep conversation with a good friend recently that triggered some flashback memories...

 

Over the years, I've learned many important lessons on the philosophy of life and humanity. I must admit that there are some things I wish I knew earlier that would probably saved my time and perhaps make better life choices. Nevertheless, I will share some random thoughts and my heartfelt advice from these valuable life lessons and hope it evaluates your wisdom and perspectives too.

Things I Wish I Knew When I Was Younger...

Set Boundaries

Be careful of the kindness and generosity you give. Unfortunately, many people are takers without gratitude. If you are an Empath like me, it is extremely important to set boundaries to protect yourself from being taken for granted and drained by energy vampires. Set your limits, too much empathy can be harmful. Don't ever burn yourself out to keep others warm.⚠️

Don't try to fit in a group and be a people pleaser just because you are afraid to stand alone. Standing alone is better than being disrespected. Understand that not everyone will like you and that's OK. If they don't appreciate your kindness and reciprocate your efforts, these are not your people and you are in the wrong tribe.

Grades Don't Define Intelligence

I know this is not a favorite opinion.lol, but I will say it anyway. Higher education doesn't always make someone smarter or superior than the rest. Keep in mind that a smart and successful business man doesn't have to be a Math genius. Doing well in schools doesn't mean you'll do well in life. School and working life is a totally different setting. Many intelligent, wealthy and successful people I know never had a degree, so don't berate yourself and devalue your worth! It is superficial and stereotype to judge intelligence solely on academic grades. Intelligence and wisdom is a lot more than just papers.(I do agree with Mr. Elon Musk!😊)

 

  

Age Doesn't Define Maturity

Maturity is reflect on how a person react and respond to various circumstances. It's about responsibility, accountability, self-discipline and the right attitude. Don't be fooled by age, a 40yo could still 'act' like a 14yo on how they handled situations and crisis.

 

True Beauty Is Being Who You Are

Most women feel insecure about their weight, because being 'thin' is projected as the beauty standard in the society, but what is physical beauty if you have a bad character? For me, there is no ugly people, only ugly personalities! Babes, you gotta' stop comparing yourself with the runway models and celebrities. 

Beauty comes in different sizes and shapes. You are gorgeous if you have a great personality and a beautiful soul! We all have some flaws and no one is perfect. True beauty and attraction is being confident in your own skin and being happy for who you are!

 

Time Is Precious, Don't Waste it!

Sometimes we may postpone our plans waiting for the 'right' time but accomplished nothing in the end! 

Procrastination is the thief of time, it cause delays, disorientation and missed opportunities. In my honest opinion, there is NO PERFECT timing for anything, so be flexible and realistic. Create opportunities in the present. If you are always waiting for a "Miracle", you may end up waiting for years and feeling disappointed when you lost all the motivation and passion when your age is catching up. 

Don't waste your time and find more excuses... Focus what you really want and do it NOW! I regret wasted so much time in the wrong jobs, people, places and choices that I wish I could undo my mistakes but now, I truly know what I want and my purpose in life.

The Perfect Dream Lover Don't Exist!

No marriages or relationship is all sunshine and lovey-dovey. Yes, I am a hopeless romantic who believes in true love, but the ecstatic and infinity love story of "Romeo & Juliet" don't exist in the real world. Every couples have some issues and good relationships are built on a strong foundation with patience, trust, forgiveness, empathy, support and surviving the storms together.

Don't Tell Anyone Everything

A friend today could be an enemy tomorrow! Don't be too trusting with people, not everyone is genuine and loyal to you. They could be smiling in front of you and stab you at the back. A fake and jealous 'friend' could betray you anytime, so the less information they know, the safer you are, what people don't know can't be ruined.😘

        

Hope Is NOT A Strategy

People will tell you "Not to lose hope..." but these are words of comfort that doesn't serve much purpose nor solutions, but don't get me wrong, I am not saying we should give up hope, but 'Hope' itself is NEVER a strategy. If you want to achieve something in life, you have to work for your goals. "Hoping" will never do anything for you when there is zero action. Every success and victory requires hard work, good strategies and consistent efforts. False hopes are more dangerous than fears!

Talk Is Cheap

People will letyou down and promises will be broken. Don't expect too much from others or believe everything they said. Pay attention and watch their actions instead. If their words and actions don't match, stop serving good vibes to those who deserve goodbye! Never try to hurt a kind person and think it is alright to apologize later. Even the nicest people have their limits. They may never forgive you for the broken trust and the emotional scars.

Treat everyone with respect. It's ok to be angry, but it is NOT ok to be cruel! One grave mistake can result serious consequences permanently and living with guilt is tormenting. So always remind yourself to think before you speak and act, because sorry are just words that can't fix everything.

Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone

We are living in a world of judgement, prejudices and deception. No matter what you do, you'll get judged anyway. Never give anyone the power to control your mind and manipulate your emotions. Their criticisms and opinions don't feed you or pay your bills. Be wise to ignore the negativity and those who try to put you down. You are in charge of your happiness and life is too short to worry about how others see you. Get out of the shell and express yourself. Live life to the fullest and always do what makes you happy! 😎       

             

 

Everyone will have some regrets at some point in life. I've been there and done that! but don't look back, we are not going that way! Forgive yourself for the mistakes but remember the lessons. 

                     

Life has many amazing ways to teach us everyday and each time you fall, you learn to get up STRONGER with the wisdom and courage inside you. Remember, the past version of yourself is so proud of how far you've achieved and the best is yet to come!

"Sparkle Up and Keep Shining!"⭐🌞

Happiness Is A Family Vacation! 🚘

I love to travel.

I like meeting new people, learning different cultures and exploring new places around the world...

I used to travel a lot when I was single, working in the travel industry many years back... Now a mother of 2 young kids with a busy schedule and other commitments. I travel less often, probably once or twice a year.

December is the school holiday and we would plan for short vacations to nearby countries like; Malaysia, Indonesia, Thailand, etc...Our neighboring country, Malaysia, is a great place for shopping, dining and sight-seeing. 

We just came back from Malaysia (Johor Bahru) and I took some pictures during the trip that I would share on my blog.

Transportation can be quite challenging especially when you are traveling with young children. To avoid the hassle of unloading the luggage and the long waiting at the custom, we hired a private car that take us directly to the apartment.

Thank goodness it was a smooth and pleasant ride, the jam at the causeway wasn't too bad and we reached the apartment earlier than expected.

Wow! I must say I really love the apartment...I slept well on this trip! 😄


The place is clean, cozy and spacious. There are 2 bedrooms, 2 bathrooms, a kitchen and there's even a Christmas tree at the hall for the holiday season. Sweet! 


There is an outdoor pool and a gym at the rooftop. The kids had a great time playing in the water... Since I can't swim well, I just chilled by the pool and enjoy the views...It's so relaxing! 😎

Malaysia is also a well-known food paradise! My hubby is a foodie and he took us to try many famous food around the city, we are either shopping or eating, all the time! Gosh...I think this trip has made me gained a few pounds. (Oh darn!😜)

......and I have a sweet tooth unfortunately, I get weak when I see a Macaroon!!! Yea, I know it's so 'sinful' to eat these, but an occasional afternoon tea shouldn't harm. Let's dig in! (We can always diet after the trip.LOL! 😂) 

Overall, it's a pretty enjoyable trip except for a little rain on and off but since we travel by car and spent most of the time indoors at the malls, cinema & restaurants, the rain didn't affect our trip. In fact, it's cooling to move around the city and the night markets too. 

Oh, I love the street food there and the Salted Egg Chicken is a must-try! It's so damn good and really addictive! Mmm-mmm! 😋

...Before we headed back to Singapore, I caught another cute plushie at the claw machine to add to my collection. What a lucky day! (Hello Mr. Birdie! you are coming home with us.🐦)

I believe family bonding and spending quality time together is important. To me, it's not where I travel, it's who I travel with and as long as I'm with the people that I love, any place in the world can be a fun adventure together.

I enjoy family trips and outings. What matters most to me is seeing my kids having so much fun during this trip, it strengthens our family bonding and relationships.

Always make time for the family, spend as much time together and create happy memories! Happiness is priceless! I look forward to more family vacations to come... 

...."A family that travels together stays together! " 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦💗


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